This Week with Wicked Grounds (11/7 – 11/17)

Beloved kinksters –

I will be perfectly honest: I woke up this morning, and my first thought was “I don’t want to write today’s newsletter.” That’s because many of us woke up yesterday in a different world than we’d hoped.

But I don’t have a cafe table to jump on today, so the newsletter it is.

I’m profoundly worried about where things are headed. We have about ten weeks before the civil climate in the US changes drastically. As a queer, trans, and sex-positive person, I am profoundly aware of my fears. Many of you are, too.

I have a couple of anchors to hold onto today.

First, I’m pledging to listen to my fear and anger. Not to be paralyzed by them. Not to push them away. Just to listen. Anger is a signal that your boundaries have been crossed. Fear is a signal that you still have the power to act. As kinksters, we have learned to listen to these signals, and to act on them. We are lucky in that way.

Second, I am remembering the profound impact of sex-positive warriors of my youth. When I was coming up queer and polyamorous in a red state during the Reagan administration, voices like Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, and Susie Bright reminded me that my erotic expression had power. There is a reason that repressive movements tamp down on the erotic. The erotic life has power. Queer folks, kinky folks, and polyamorous folks have always been targets because our lives encourage our communities and others toward self-awareness and self-expression. This is dangerous to oppressive regimes. I’m going to honor the voices that literally saved my life by keeping and amplifying my own voice.

So: we’re not going to shut up. We’re going to get louder. We’re going to get stronger. If that puts me at risk, so be it. I’ve spent my whole life gearing up for this fight.

In somewhat related news, I’ve launched our 2025 Month of Mindfulness in January. This will be a month of live and recorded meditation, journaling, habit-building and other resilience-focused self-care. I think we’re going to need it. Pricing is designed to be extremely accessible while remaining sustainable. You can sign up here.

This week!

Just launched for January

Join us in January for a full Month of Mindfulness with daily meditation sessions, journaling, habit-building and more with a focus on making more space for kinky, queer, and other sex-positive folks. Learn more and sign up with our sliding scale here, at rates starting at low as $1/day. We’d spare you the “it’s much less than a cup of coffee, joke, except we just didn’t . . .

Saturday 11/9

How can productivity theory make for better D/s service? Learn the basics today with Hannah the Scribe at 2pm Pacific! Tickets available through Forbidden Tickets or Plura.

Tuesday 11/12

Interested in electro and wax play? Join Jamie Joy online at 6pm Pacific for Ignite the Spark: The Art of Wax and Electro Play. You’ll learn how to expand your kinky skillset with some hot new skills safely and have more fun! We could use that right now. Tickets available through Forbidden Tickets or Plura.

Wednesday 11/13

You want my opinion? This week more than ever, it would help to have a deep bench of kinky friends who get it. Yes, come to meet potential partners! Yes, come to have fun! But also: get to know your kink community right now. Meet a lot of people, fast, and figure out who you vibe with. We could use that right now. Live in San Francisco at 7pm, join us for Kinky Speed Friending + Dating with Psychokitty. Tickets available exclusively through Plura.

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Warmly,
Mir & The Wicked Grounds Team

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