Author: Miriam Green

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As we roll out our new kinky advice/ Q&A column here, we wanted to set a few guidelines for how the column will work and how to ask questions.  The column  We expect to answer a new question every week or so, as they come in. This might change as our volume of questions changes — we expect fewer questions at the beginning (and maybe some general columns to fill in), and more as the word gets out.  Patreon subscribers will always get early access to the column, and priority to ask new questions. We will cross-post columns to our WickedGrounds.com blog two weeks after publishing them here.  This column is public right now so that everyone can see how it works.  Ask a question!  Have a question? Here are a few guidelines for what to expect when you send them. (The email to send questions is after the guidelines.)  1. Your questions will remain anonymous. If you have a preferred nom de plume, let us know; if not, we will assign one. It would be great if you can also let us know your pronouns.  2. Please also protect the identities of others involved in your question by changing their names. We will assume you’ve done this.  3. We reserve the right to edit your question for clarity and length. The more you can provide a tightly focused question, the easier it is to answer.  4. By sending a question, you are granting us permission to publish your question in this column, our blog, our videos, and any future places where we may use that content (such as book projects), for commercial use or otherwise, without us seeking further permission.  5. While we’ll answer as many questions as we can, we reserve the right to answer the questions that are a best fit for this project and community. Not all questions will necessarily be answered.  6. Just a reminder that we are kink concierges, open-minded baristas and “accidental sex educators” — we are not therapists, and writing in is no substitute for therapy. If you need therapeutic or medical help, please reach out to professionals that can help you. Mir is just this queer dude writing their opinions on the internet. Seriously.  Okay, got all that? Your email to send questions is AskWickedMir@gmail.com. Easy! Send away!  xoxo WickedMir and the friendly baristas of Wicked Grounds 

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Good morning and happy Monday everyone –  It’s Monday and sunny but cold here in San Francisco, and there’s a tinge of revolution in the air.  At the cafe, we served up “support coffees” (prepaid coffee & tea to go for folks that can’t afford a cup right now) for folks who needed them. We also sent three big to go boxes, a case of bottled water, and a big box of snacks and supplies to SFO airport, where many folks in the San Francisco kink community were on site to ensure the rights of travelers affected by Friday’s executive order.   Back at the shop, it was a very full weekend of classes! Mir taught our entire core Kink 101 series, including our introduction to the local BDSM scene (“Welcome to Wicked Grounds”), and our workshops on “BDSM Negotiation Basics” and “Dating While Kinky”. The latter two classes were literally standing room only!  For a few moments, the weekend felt like a lesson in contrasts. It quickly became clear, however, how congruent the classes and the activism were.  Our whole Kink 101 series is about learning what you want, figuring out how to ask for it, and doing that in a way that honors the individuals and communities around us. The whole series is about building affirmative consent, strengthening communities, being stronger together, and having fun while doing it.  As Mir reflected last night, it became clear why so many folks in the local kink community were able to quickly mobilize and get out where needed to the streets and airports and local Islamic centers to offer support this weekend. Once you know how to put on Folsom Street Fair or Leather Alley, all that stuff looks easy. 😉  All this to say — thank you. This project on Patreon is about building a platform where we can bring those skills, that perspective, that “secret sauce of Wicked Grounds” to people both more effectively in the Bay Area, and also to folks beyond. Our immediate next step is to take some of the questions we are getting as follow ups to the weekend classes to start up our new advice column. Mir’s also seeking out software for interactive live classes, so that we can bring classes like “So You Want to Start a Munch” to kinksters throughout the nation in a live, online format.  If you’ve already subscribed, thank you! If you have yet to subscribe, it’s amazingly easy and we appreciate any level of support for these new classes, videos and articles. Subscribers will always get exclusive early access for new content, and the pleasure of knowing you’ve made it happen.  Whatever the week brings you, hang in there. Drink good coffee, and connect with community. Practice good self-care. And remember: people love you.  xoxo Mir and the good folks of Wicked Grounds 

Hello Wicked folks –  First: thanks again for being here! You all are the best.  So, a few quick updates whether you signed up wayyyyy back on Wednesday or are just joining us.  We’ve already hit our first two (!!) stretch goals, which is kind of mind blowing. We’re talking to a videographer for the taped classes, and checking out platforms for truly interactive online classes in preparation for our third goal — being able to teach our “So You Want to Start a Munch!” class to kinksters worldwide.  If you signed up this month, we’ll be in touch next week to put a bow on your membership (and, if you signed up for one of those levels, get your swag in the mail).  Here are things to look out for:  – Advice column should be going live in 1-2 weeks. We are awaiting questions, so comment with yours!  – Small videos should be coming to you starting by late February.  – The first long format video class (“BDSM Negotiation Basics”) should be going live by late March.  – The second long format video class (“Dating While Kinky”) should be going live by late May.  – We should be up and running to teach live online classes by early summer.  Much of this content will eventually go public, but subscribers will always get a sneak peek at new content before it’s anywhere else.  We are so excited about this project, and grateful for your support.  Want to keep up with all project updates? Subscribe now!  xoxo Mir & the good folks of Wicked Grounds 

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