Month: October 2026

Howdy kinksters – A reminder that elections are coming up in the US, and we are in critical times to make decisions about the directions of this country. Think that has nothing to do with the sexy things we do? Think again! Politics has a direct impact on the ability to freely express sexuality and especially outside-the-lines forms of sexual expression. We know it’s overwhelming, particularly for our West coast people who tend to face a wall of referenda and initiatives. But please, check your registrations, get those ballots, and get active. Heck, even running a kinky business, we keep running into frustrating little downstream effects of the ​SESTA/ FOSTA​ legislation ten years back, which make it increasingly difficult for even a kink education business to interact with the traditional banking industry. (So frustrating!) Because of this, Wicked Grounds is facing some organizational pushback this week that might cause frustrating setbacks to our winter growth plans. If you love the fact that we’re growing and evolving, and particularly if you want to see us regrow some of our live events in the SF Bay Area, I want to strongly encourage you to ​join our Patreon​, ​contribute to our scholarship fund​, or reach out for other ways you can support us. Now, let’s look at all the cool things going on this week, both online and in San Francisco! This Week! Thursday, October 8 Online: Sub drop. Top drop. Event drop! What is this dreadful feeling that we sometime have after play, and what can we do about it? Miriam Green has been researching the neuropsychology of drop for most of this decade, and has the context to help you understand why drop happens, a variety of ways it might manifest, and strategies to use both before and after play to make it a little better. Join us live online or through the recording within seven days with your advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​. Friday, October 9 No live programming today, but it might be the perfect day to explore all of the great memberships that come with our ​Patreon VIP program​! Saturday, October 10 Online: Join Faun DeSylva online today for Monster Fucking in a Mundane World. Humans have always had a fascination with the monstrous. Whether you’re playing by yourself or with a partner, this class will help you create the monsterfucking scene of your dreams. Attend live or within seven days through the recording with your advance tickets from ​Plura​ or ​Forbidden Tickets​. San Francisco, CA: Join us live in San Francisco for one of the very best D/s classes we offer! Alexandria from Click Your Heels is going to help you get out of your head and into your body with techniques for great embodied communication for D/s play in Leading and Following: D/s Body Language. We’ll meet live in San Francisco from 1-4pm to explore it all. Space is extremely limited, so advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​ are highly recommended. We have a hard limit of 26 attendees, and there are only eight spaces left as I write this. Sunday, October 11 Online: Join Oak online today to explore Long Distance D/s 101: Presence without Proximity. The absence of shared physical space can change how authority is communicated, service is rendered, and the maintenance of intimacy, and how repair looks. We will talk about what authority exchange looks like at a distance. We recommend attending live for the best experience, but we’ll record for viewing within seven days if you can’t make it. Get your advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​. Monday, October 12 Online: Self-awareness, consent, and great negotiation skills are critical to great BDSM scenes — but you’re not alone if you didn’t grow up with these as part of your basic sex education. Let’s learn all about consent, communication, and awesome scenes tonight in BDSM Negotiation: From Awkward to Awesome with Miriam Green. Advance tickets allow you to attend either live or within seven days through the recording. Get yours from ​Plura​ or ​Forbidden Tickets​. Tuesday, October 13 No live programming today, but check out all of our digital downloads and other resources at ​WickedGroundsAnnex.Teacahble.com​. Wednesday, October 14 San Francisco, CA: Want to meet a lot of new kinksters, fast? Whether you’re seeking friends, potential play partners, mentors, or long-term love, we can help you meet a lot of kinksters in a safe environment in our monthly Kinky Speed Friending in San Francisco. ​Ticketing for this event is exclusively through Plura.​ Thursday, October 15 Online: Join us online tonight for Ethical Self Harm with The Lady V. This class aims to instead redirect real physical self harm into using our tools of BDSM for temporary playful pain. Join former “cutter” turned self sadomasochist, Lady V, in redirecting that negative energy into something cathartic, fun, & potentially healing. Join us live or through the recording with your advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​. Friday, October 16 No live programming today, but check out all of our digital downloads and other resources at ​WickedGroundsAnnex.Teacahble.com​. Saturday, October 17 Online: Whether you’re new to kink or fairly experienced, you’re going to see some things as you navigate the kink world that are off-putting, not your style, or perhaps even disturbing. How do you make the distinction between what’s not your thing and what to actually worry about? Join Sir Panda online with us today to explore it all in Your Kink Is Not My Kink – But Is Your Kink OK?. Attend live online or through the recording within seven days with your advance tickets from ​Plura​ or ​Forbidden Tickets​. Online: If you’re a kinkster and also interested in astrology, we have a couple of very interesting classes on kink archetypes for you today and tomorrow. This afternoon, join Lila Hades of The Unconventional Plutonian online for Astrokink 101: Discovering Your Erotic Archetypes. This isn’t a one-size-fits-all archetype class, but one that fits you in several aspects of your life.

Diving Deep: Discovering & Voicing Your Erotic Desires with Miriam Green a six-week online intensive via Teachable and Zoom November 1 – December 14, 2026 ​Advance ticketing required. Get yours here!​ Please note: these workshops sell out in advance, and space is limited. To ensure your seat, please sign up as soon as you feel committed to this work. We typically close the four-session premium seating before general seating, so if you feel called to the advanced premium seating, you will want to act early. The first step in negotiating is voicing what we want. But many of us run into immediate challenges: What do I want? As I figure that out, how do I feel safe talking out loud about my desires? This six-week online intensive is designed to help kinksters and other erotic adventurers get un-stuck around our evolving desires and how to ask for them. Since 2023, we’ve been helping kinksters just like you create their own erotic roadmaps and advocate for their needs and wants. This work is perfect for anyone launching a new phase in their erotic journeys (or feeling stuck in an old phase). Is this course for you?​ Do you get stuck when asked “what do you want in intimate relationships?” Are you uncomfortable telling partners about your desires and kinks? Have you been doing the same thing for a long time and want to find new routes to eroticism? Do you want a deep understanding of the physical and psychological responses you have to kink? Do you want to connect deeply with others? Then yes: this course is for you! Together, we’ll explore: Discovering and honoring what turns you on Safely exploring kink and other edgy forms of eroticism Trying new skills in the bedroom and beyond Deepening your insights into your own desires Disentangling from others’ erotic projections Finding your voice and speaking freely Sharing the desires you’re afraid to voice How we’ll engage The six week course will run live from November 1 to December 14, 2025. This class will include six total weeks of content and homework, three 90-minute live online group sessions (recorded for later participation if needed), and at least one half-hour individual consult with instructor Miriam Green. (Our class tiers include the option to add more consulting for your own journey.) Our three 90-minute live group sessions will be offered via Zoom on Monday, November 2; Monday, November 23; and Monday, December 7 – all at 6pm Pacific time. Sessions will be recorded for later viewing or for those who cannot attend the sessions live. Ticketed participants will have access to the course materials weekly as they are provided and will have the ability to participate at their own pace, attending the live sessions in real time or online at their convenience. ​Tickets are available here, and space is limited.​​ Pricing plans are available for additional accessibility.

Howdy kinksters – We are settling into the fall now, and it’s conference season! Our Killmeat Nick is at DomCon in New Orleans this weekend — if you see them around, please say hello! And then October 23 – 25, Miriam Green will be presenting at Dark Odyssey: Surrender, debuting a brand new class as well as co-presenting impact play shenanigans with impossiblepain. Ticketing is still open to join us at the conference, and you can ​get yours here​! This week, we’re reflecting on how blessed we are to practice kink in the US, and particularly in the relatively progressive parts of California. Not everyone has the privilege that we do here. Fellow kinksters running Shibari Turkey are at this moment under house arrest for simply promoting shibari and queer culture. The idea that people should be wearing ankle bracelets just for practicing kink is unacceptable. If you agree, one way to support this group would be to attend the Let It Reign online fundraiser this Saturday ​Kink Myths Busted: A Fundraiser Panel in Support of ShibariTurkey​. Miriam Green will join other world-class educators in this live online event, and every dollar raised goes to support Shibari Turkey. Oh, and as we start a new month, don’t forget that it’s the best time to get an event pass to attend lots of Wicked Grounds events at a flat price. You may get your ​October​, ​quarterly​, or ​annual​ passes now! Now, let’s look at all the other cool things going on this week! This Week! Thursday, October 1 Online: Interested in creating D/s contracts that really work for you and your relationships? Join Hannah the Scribe online with us tonight for Contract Systems. We’ll cover how to create and maintain a customizable contract system for power exchange dynamics. You may attend live or through the recording within seven days with your advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​. Friday, October 2 No live programming today, but check out all of our digital downloads and other resources at ​WickedGroundsAnnex.Teacahble.com​. This is also where you can purchase our monthly, quarterly, or annual event passes to make the most of our kink journey! Saturday, October 3 Online: Our own Miriam Green will be taking part in ​Kink Myths Busted: A Fundraiser Panel in Support of ShibariTurkey​. This online panel — hosted by our friends at Let It Reign — brings together Miriam Green, Rain DeGrey, Ancilla L and more to discuss and disentangle the myths these educators frequently encounter in the kink world. 100% of the class proceeds go to the members of Shibari Turkey, who are currently under house arrest for their promotion and acceptance of kink and queer culture in Turkey. ​Get your tickets here!​ And donate extra to Shibari Turkey if you’re able. This event will not be recorded, so get your tickets and mark your calendars! Sunday, October 4 Online: Join our own Miriam Green online today for KINK 201: Advanced BDSM Negotiations – Relationships, Dynamics, and Contracts. We’ll leverage all our skills that we use in negotiating for scenes and level up to longer-term rituals, protocols, dynamics, and agreements that will serve all kinds of long-term play relationships, including but not limited to D/s. Come live to get in all your questions, or you’ll be able to watch the recording all week with your advance tickets from ​Plura​ or ​Forbidden Tickets​. Monday, October 5 Online: Join Jamie Joy online tonight for Blood, Sweat, & Fears: The Art and Thrill of Blood Play. Learn safety essentials, techniques, and the dark delicious creativity of drawing blood with intention. Whether you’re a seasoned player or a curious explorer, come ready to revel in the exquisite agony of broken flesh. Please note: this class is not for the faint of heart! Attend live or within seven days through the recording with your advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​. Tuesday, October 6 No live programming today, but check out all of our digital downloads and other resources at ​WickedGroundsAnnex.Teacahble.com​. Wednesday, October 7 San Francisco, CA: Whether you’re brand new to impact play, or you’d like to take your skills to the next level, you are warmly invited to join us for our next SpankLab live in San Francisco. We always start with a quick talk or demo, make consent agreements to keep the space safe, and then have 90 minutes of learning-by-doing hands on play. (Observers are always welcome, too!) We often sell out, so get your advance tickets now from ​Plura​ or ​Forbidden Tickets​. Thursday, October 8 Online: Sub drop. Top drop. Event drop! What is this dreadful feeling that we sometime have after play, and what can we do about it? Miriam Green has been researching the neuropsychology of drop for most of this decade, and has the context to help you understand why drop happens, a variety of ways it might manifest, and strategies to use both before and after play to make it a little better. Join us live online or through the recording within seven days with your advance tickets from ​Forbidden Tickets​ or ​Plura​. Friday, October 9 No live programming today, but check out all of our digital downloads and other resources at ​WickedGroundsAnnex.Teacahble.com​. Saturday, October 10 Online: Join Faun DeSylva online today for Monster Fucking in a Mundane World. Humans have always had a fascination with the monstrous. Whether you’re playing by yourself or with a partner, this class will help you create the monsterfucking scene of your dreams. Attend live or within seven days through the recording with your advance tickets from ​Plura​ or ​Forbidden Tickets​. San Francisco, CA: Join us live in San Francisco for one of the very best D/s classes we offer! Alexandria from Click Your Heels is going to help you get out of your head and into your body with techniques for great embodied communication for D/s play in Leading and Following: D/s Body Language. We’ll meet live in San Francisco from 1-4pm to explore it all. Space is