Month: February 2025

This week and BLACK + BLUE FRIDAY with Wicked Grounds (11/29 – 12/8)

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

Hello kinksters – A very happy Black & Blue Friday from your friends at Wicked Grounds. We are headed into the first week of December, which is always a great time — particularly with a lot of in-person events in San Francisco for our friends there. I’m also delighted to announce that we’ve brought back Your Kink Year in Review for the season, and you’ll have access now through January. But before we dive into all that, let’s make sure you know about the phenomenal Black Friday sales we have for you this weekend. Now through Monday, 12/1, you may get 20% off everything at WickedGroundsAnnex.com with code BLACKFLAG at checkout. That’s all event passes, all coaching, all downloads, all multi-week courses! Here’s what I might use the code for … An initial coaching session with Mir, or even a full six-pack of sessions. Our January Month of MIndfulness or six week Pentacles of Power: A Six-Week Sex Magick Intensive An event pass for all-you-can-kink classes for a month, three months, or even a full year! One or more of our helpful digital downloads, including video classes, workbooks, and the seasonal return of Your Kink Year in Review (Hey! Are you a Wicked Grounds VIP on Patreon? Your discount is even better! Check your membership messages for your custom code. And if you’re not yet a VIP on Patreon, checkout memberships at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds. We rely on our members to make what we do possible, and appreciate your support! Upcoming multi-week workshops to plan for! Join us in January for a full Month of Mindfulness with daily meditation sessions, journaling, habit-building and more with a focus on making more space for kinky, queer, and other sex-positive folks. Learn more and sign up with our sliding scale here, at rates starting at low as $1/day. If you’d like to go deeply into the intersection of magick and power, join us in February and early March for Pentacles of Power: A Sex-Magick Intensive for Kinky People. You absolutely don’t need to be kinky to practice sex magick. But if you are kinky, that’s going to change the way you think about power, polarity, ritual, and more. There are only a few instructors teaching at this intersection, and this is the first time Miriam Green will share personal practices they’ve been developing for nearly twenty years. Find more information and registration here. This week! Monday 12/2 Want to get a little bit darker? Enjoy exploring the edge? Join Lee Harrington online tonight at 6pm Pacific for **Dark Roleplaying,” and find all of those delicious pairings for the darker side of creative play. Ticketing: Forbidden Tickets or Plura Tuesday 12/3 Let’s talk about some of the biggest issues that polyamorous folks with kids face, whether that’s people’s perceptions or day-to-day challenges! Laura Boyle from Ready for Polyamory is here to walk through it all online tonight at 6pm Pacific. Ticketing: Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Wednesday 12/4 Let’s warm things up with some creative and fun impact play! Join impossiblepain tonight for SpankLab! This hands-on playshop in San Francisco is a space to learn, explore and grow your impact play techniques, whether you’re an absolute beginner or perfecting your own style. Each session has a demo session and support for newbies as well as plenty of practice time. Ticketing: Forbidden Tickets or Plura. You can also take a chance on space-available ticketing at the door. Saturday 12/7 In the San Francisco Bay Area? Want to learn more about how to get involved in the many aspects of our own unique public scene! Join Miriam Green at noon to learn more, at our offices near 5th & Mission in San Francisco. Advance ticketing strongly recommended! Get yours at Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Not in San Francisco? Wish you had something like this for your own part of the world? We are here to help! On Saturday, January 4th at 11am Pacific you can join Mir from anywhere online to learn the basics of getting involved and even creating parts of a local scene anywhere. Get tickets at Forbidden Tickets. Join us in San Francisco at 2:30 pm for the most fun you can have learning negotiation skills. Join Wiley Elote for Negotiation Improv! It’s part speed friending, part negotiation workshop, and part improv skills for learning more confidence in communicating your needs. There’s nothing else quite like it. Ticketing: Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Sunday 12/8 In San Francisco? Identify as a bottom, submissive, or other s-type? Join us at Mukunda Studio near Folsom and 8th Street for Submissives in Solidarity, a submissive-centered discussion group hosted by Wicked Grounds’ Miriam Green. Ticketing: Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Want to get in your body and learn some sexy moves? Join Alexandria from Click Your Heels for Stripping 101! Learn everything you need to know to make taking off your clothes sexy and fun. While you’re at it, be sure to ask Alexandria about body confidence coaching! Ticketing: Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Support. Follow. Share. Join our Patreon for personal benefits and to stabilize our long-term trajectory. Annual memberships now available! Use our Venmo for one-time donations toward our sustainability, and to help specifically with scholarship tickets. Book with us for coaching and consulting time with Mir. Warmly,Mir & The Wicked Grounds Team (Do you find this weekly roundup helpful? If this newsletter has saved you time, or given you a great idea, feel free to leave a little something in our tip jar)

This week with Wicked Grounds (11/21 – 12/1)

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

Hello kinksters – Greetings from the stormy upper coast of California! I hope that everyone is doing well this week. We have several classes coming up for this last week of the month. And keep an eye out next week for some Black Friday specials on everything you need for your kink education journey! Read on for what we have coming up for you, including some upcoming longer workshops to get your new year off to the right start. Do you need help with something beyond our class lineup? Never hesitate to reach out for individual coaching and consulting. We are here to help! Upcoming multi-week workshops to plan for! Join us in January for a full Month of Mindfulness with daily meditation sessions, journaling, habit-building and more with a focus on making more space for kinky, queer, and other sex-positive folks. Learn more and sign up with our sliding scale here, at rates starting at low as $1/day. If you’d like to go deeply into the intersection of magick and power, join us in February and early March for Pentacles of Power: A Sex-Magick Intensive for Kinky People. You absolutely don’t need to be kinky to practice sex magick. But if you are kinky, that’s going to change the way you think about power, polarity, ritual, and more. There are only a few instructors teaching at this intersection, and this is the first time Miriam Green will share personal practices they’ve been developing for nearly twenty years. Find more information and registration here. This week! Thursday 11/21 Online tonight at 6pm Pacific, explore Voyeurism and Exhibitionism: Thrill of the Spotlight and Shadows with Lilith Foxx. This new skill requires no toys, but there is a lot to explore to make this kind of play fun, safe, and respectful for everyone involved. Let’s talk about it! Advance tickets required through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Monday 11/25 Whether you’re relatively new to BDSM or just want a refresher, building your consent toolbox is critical. Learn the core skills of BDSM negotiation and why they’re important online at 6pm Pacific with Miriam Green in BDSM Negotiation Basics. Advanced ticketing is required. Get yours through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Wednesday 11/27 Good negotiation for both relationships and communities starts with good boundaries. Join us tonight to become more accountable for both yourself and your impact on others. Get curious. Ask questions, and apply your sense of wonder to the ways you interact with and at your edge with HG Wyndell in Boundaries: Mapping the Self in Community. Advance ticketing is required. Get yours through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Saturday 11/30 Join us for a special workshop this afternoon at 2pm Pacific with Adam and Draven: Consent, Accountability, and Neurodivergence. Learn more about how to navigate consent, communication and negotiation — whether you are yourself neurodivergent, or just want to great better spaces for community members who are! Advance ticketing required. Get yours through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Support. Follow. Share. Join our Patreon for personal benefits and to stabilize our long-term trajectory. Annual memberships now available! Use our Venmo for one-time donations toward our sustainability, and to help specifically with scholarship tickets. Book with us for coaching and consulting time with Mir. Warmly,Mir & The Wicked Grounds Team (Do you find this weekly roundup helpful? If this newsletter has saved you time, or given you a great idea, feel free to leave a little something in our tip jar)

Helpful resources for uncertain times

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

Hello kinksters – We live in very interesting times right now. Some of the rights we’ve long taken as granted have been removed or are at risk. One benefit of being a bit older is that I’ve lived through the fight for some of these rights, and I know how we can fight to claw them back. I strongly believe that now is the time to get active where we can. Often that means working on specific issues, or in specific areas. Here are a few organizations I’d like to draw your attention to right now. These are groups that can help communities like ours, and that can also use your help, support, and engagement. Not all of them will be a fit for all of you. We’re a diverse community, and we don’t have to agree on everything. But for most of us kinksters and sexual adventurers, at least one of these will be a good fit. National Coalition for Sexual Freedom: These are the folks that run the priceless Kink Aware Professionals list, but they do a lot more than that. NCSF “is committed to creating a political, legal and social environment in the US that advances equal rights for consenting adults who engage in alternative sexual and relationship expressions.” This means they fight for the rights of kinksters, non-monogamous folks, sexually-oriented businesses like Wicked Grounds, and others. Wicked Grounds has been a coalition partner for many years, and we strongly recommend keeping up with and supporting their work. Becoming an individual member is inexpensive and keeps you in the loop. If you’re in the SF Bay Area, I strongly encourage you to get involved with the LEATHER & LGBTQ Cultural District, which is the world’s first city-recognized LEATHER & LGBTQ Cultural District. I was personally involved in the formation and bylaws-writing for the group and I feel very strongly about the possibility of this organization to drive positive change for kinksters and kink-oriented organizations. While the physical footprint of the district is in parts of SOMA, SF, the group invites all stakeholders — defined as Bay Area kinksters and participants in district kink businesses to become a member and get involved. Membership dues are very inexpensive, and hardship waivers are available. Reproductive Freedom for All is the group formerly known as NARAL. I was only a baby when Roe v. Wade became law, and I honestly never thought that we’d lose reproductive rights in my lifetime. Access to safe abortions has already been restricted in many parts of the US and lives have already been lost. Contraception rights are becoming actively endangered. Get on the mailing list, stay in the loop, and learn how to fight back. Advocates for Trans Equality (A4TE) was founded in 2024 as the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE) and Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund (TLDEF), two long-time champions for the trans community, merged together as one organization. The new organization focuses on a wide range of acceptance and rights for trans and nonbinary people. Their work is absolutely critical right now. These are just a few of the organizations that I know best. I’m certain there are others. It’s normal to feel helpless, frustrated, or even angry at times like these. It’s okay to feel those feelings. But if we’re going to keep our rights as sexual adventurers, we can’t stay there. We must act. We must engage. And even when it feels like we have no fight left in us, we must fight. I encourage you to find one thing that you feel strongly enough about to get involved, and to get involved now. We have a few weeks of relatively calm before the storm. Let’s spend those making ourselves and our institutions as resilient as possible. Warmly,Miriam Green

This week with Wicked Grounds (11/14 – 11/24)

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

Beloved kinksters – I was delighted last night to see a nearly full house at our Kinky Speed Friending and Dating in San Francisco. Right now more than ever, I think we need connection and community. We need to know who values sex-positive culture just as much as we do. And we need to be in places where we can truly be ourselves. Wherever you are, I hope you’re finding that sense of connection. If you’re not, I hope you’ll let us help! Just need to talk? Never hesitate to reach out for coaching. I have a few hours each week set aside to help individual clients with their personal journeys, goals, and challenges. You’re in luck if you’re up for gaining new skills this week. We have a great flogging class online, a live rope class in the SF Bay Area, and much more. Whatever you’re feeling this week, all of what you’re feeling this week, please make some space and be gentle with yourselves. Upcoming multi-week workshops to plan for! Join us in January for a full Month of Mindfulness with daily meditation sessions, journaling, habit-building and more with a focus on making more space for kinky, queer, and other sex-positive folks. Learn more and sign up with our sliding scale here, at rates starting at low as $1/day. If you’d like to go deeply into the intersection of magick and power, join us in February and early March for Pentacles of Power: A Sex-Magick Intensive for Kinky People. You absolutely don’t need to be kinky to practice sex magick. But if you are kinky, that’s going to change the way you think about power, polarity, ritual, and more. There are only a few instructors teaching at this intersection, and this is the first time Miriam Green will share personal practices they’ve been developing for nearly twenty years. Find more information and registration here. This week! Monday 11/18 Want to get started with flogging, or take your skills to the next level? Join Miss Mackenzee online at 6pm Pacific for Flogging With Style: From Basics to Brilliance. Advance ticketing required. Get yours from Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Tuesday 11/19 If you’re in the SF Bay Area, join us Tuesday evening at 6:30pm for Getting Started with Rope Bondage with Psychokitty Ryan. We’ll meet at the Folsom Street Community Center to get you grounded in all the fundamentals: basic safety, what rope to use, where to tie, and everything you need to know for your first single- and double-column ties, which are the fundamental building blocks for most eastern-style rope bondage. Advance ticketing strongly recommended. Get yours through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Wednesday 11/20 Join Lady V and Jamie Love online at 6pm Pacific for Gender Affirming Intimacy. Let’s talk about Trans & Gender Expansive bodies, the multiple forms of intimacy, creating euphoria through affirming language, and adapting to different forms of sexual & non-sexual touch. Perhaps right now more than ever, it’s time to uplift and delight our trans and gender-expansive play partners and allies. Let’s talk about it! Advance tickets required through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Thursday 11/21 Online tonight at 6pm Pacific, explore Voyeurism and Exhibitionism: Thrill of the Spotlight and Shadows with Lilith Foxx. This new skill requires no toys, but there is a lot to explore to make this kind of play fun, safe, and respectful for everyone involved. Let’s talk about it! Advance tickets required through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Support. Follow. Share. Join our Patreon for personal benefits and to stabilize our long-term trajectory. Annual memberships now available! Use our Venmo for one-time donations toward our sustainability, and to help specifically with scholarship tickets. Book with us for coaching and consulting time with Mir. Warmly,Mir & The Wicked Grounds Team (Do you find this weekly roundup helpful? If this newsletter has saved you time, or given you a great idea, feel free to leave a little something in our tip jar)

Self care and mindfulness will be more important than ever this year

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

To show up for ourselves, our partners, and our communities, it’s critical that we take time for our own resilience and well-being. I think this will be even more critical this year than it’s probably ever been. So, I’d like to invite you back to our second Month of Mindfulness for this January 2025. The month is a time to slow down, look inward, and build community. We’ll have daily practice for mindfulness and journaling, as well as a special focus on how a yearly reset can be particularly relevant for kinksters, queer folks, and other erotic adventurers. Let’s put on that virtual oxygen mask going into the year so we can be really present for what’s to come. Month of Mindfulness for kinksters, queer folks, polyamorous, and other erotic adventurers, with Miriam Green Online via Teachable Daily January 1 – January 31, 2025 Advance ticketing required. Get your seat here. And RSVP on FetLife to let friends know you’re coming. Month of Mindfulness(for who we really are) Building simple, sustainable daily practice to support ourselves in our kink and queer explorations, relationships and everyday lives. Daily practice is for everyone What’s the most important part of a daily practice? The daily part. We’ll spend a month together exploring daily practices that tend to help most folks lead lives with deeper meaning, more resilience, and greater focus. Spoiler: Not every technique out there will work for you, and that’s okay! We’ll explore together several practices that tend to help most people, most of the time. By the end of the month, you’ll be ready to launch your own personal practice that suits your needs! What we’ll do As part of this program, you’ll receive and explore: Written & video instruction to understand the psychology of daily habits Written & video instruction to explore the application of our habits to a sex-positive life Live guided meditation sessions at least five days each week Pre-recorded meditation sessions with Miriam Green that you can use during the program and beyond Daily writing prompts Weekly suggestions for mindfulness field trips Support in establishing and maintaining your personal New Year’s resolutions And more! Previous students say . . . “Knowing why you do kink is the most valuable asset any kinkster can have, moreso than any technique or toy on the market. Mir’s inclusive framework and expansive knowledge base create an amazing sandbox for players to explore what makes them tick and how to better pursue it.” – Ari Can-Do TIcketing Ticketing available on a very affordable sliding scale from $33-$99 for the full month. Advance ticketing required. Get your seat here.

This Week with Wicked Grounds (11/7 – 11/17)

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

Beloved kinksters – I will be perfectly honest: I woke up this morning, and my first thought was “I don’t want to write today’s newsletter.” That’s because many of us woke up yesterday in a different world than we’d hoped. But I don’t have a cafe table to jump on today, so the newsletter it is. I’m profoundly worried about where things are headed. We have about ten weeks before the civil climate in the US changes drastically. As a queer, trans, and sex-positive person, I am profoundly aware of my fears. Many of you are, too. I have a couple of anchors to hold onto today. First, I’m pledging to listen to my fear and anger. Not to be paralyzed by them. Not to push them away. Just to listen. Anger is a signal that your boundaries have been crossed. Fear is a signal that you still have the power to act. As kinksters, we have learned to listen to these signals, and to act on them. We are lucky in that way. Second, I am remembering the profound impact of sex-positive warriors of my youth. When I was coming up queer and polyamorous in a red state during the Reagan administration, voices like Annie Sprinkle, Carol Queen, and Susie Bright reminded me that my erotic expression had power. There is a reason that repressive movements tamp down on the erotic. The erotic life has power. Queer folks, kinky folks, and polyamorous folks have always been targets because our lives encourage our communities and others toward self-awareness and self-expression. This is dangerous to oppressive regimes. I’m going to honor the voices that literally saved my life by keeping and amplifying my own voice. So: we’re not going to shut up. We’re going to get louder. We’re going to get stronger. If that puts me at risk, so be it. I’ve spent my whole life gearing up for this fight. In somewhat related news, I’ve launched our 2025 Month of Mindfulness in January. This will be a month of live and recorded meditation, journaling, habit-building and other resilience-focused self-care. I think we’re going to need it. Pricing is designed to be extremely accessible while remaining sustainable. You can sign up here. This week! Just launched for January Join us in January for a full Month of Mindfulness with daily meditation sessions, journaling, habit-building and more with a focus on making more space for kinky, queer, and other sex-positive folks. Learn more and sign up with our sliding scale here, at rates starting at low as $1/day. We’d spare you the “it’s much less than a cup of coffee, joke, except we just didn’t . . . Saturday 11/9 How can productivity theory make for better D/s service? Learn the basics today with Hannah the Scribe at 2pm Pacific! Tickets available through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Tuesday 11/12 Interested in electro and wax play? Join Jamie Joy online at 6pm Pacific for Ignite the Spark: The Art of Wax and Electro Play. You’ll learn how to expand your kinky skillset with some hot new skills safely and have more fun! We could use that right now. Tickets available through Forbidden Tickets or Plura. Wednesday 11/13 You want my opinion? This week more than ever, it would help to have a deep bench of kinky friends who get it. Yes, come to meet potential partners! Yes, come to have fun! But also: get to know your kink community right now. Meet a lot of people, fast, and figure out who you vibe with. We could use that right now. Live in San Francisco at 7pm, join us for Kinky Speed Friending + Dating with Psychokitty. Tickets available exclusively through Plura. Support. Follow. Share. Join our Patreon for personal benefits and to stabilize our long-term trajectory. Annual memberships now available! Use our Venmo for one-time donations toward our sustainability, and to help specifically with scholarship tickets. Book with us for coaching and consulting time with Mir. Warmly,Mir & The Wicked Grounds Team (Do you find this weekly roundup helpful? If this newsletter has saved you time, or given you a great idea, feel free to leave a little something in our tip jar)

Today is the day.

February 25, 2025 By Miriam Green

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