Wicked Grounds

ONLINE: Latex 101 with Dolly Diatima
2026-01-25 14:00 - 16:00 (America/Los_Angeles)
Latex is more than just a material. It’s a cultural artifact with its own history, chemistry, and rituals of care.
In this class we will explore the essentials of latex care so your garments can say supple and shiny! We’ll cover everything from the basics of shining and daily care to the essentials of repairing small tears before they become big heartbreaks. We’ll learn about chlorination and when it’s useful and necessary and by the end of the class you will be able to care for your gear with confidence. Towards the end of class we will discuss some fun scene ideas to do with your gear.
Come ready to learn, ask questions, and leave empowered!
PRESENTER:
Dolly Diatima is a Persian American professional dominatrix, writer, fetish model, and lifestyle kinkster. As a nonbinary and neurodivergent sex worker on the ace spectrum, they offer a unique perspective into kink and sexuality which they work to bring into their sessions as a domme as well as into their writings and classes. They are currently one semester away from a BA in Philosophy and can often be found discussing the intersection of kink and philosophical concepts on their blog. After graduation, they plan to pursue an AASECT sexuality educator certification. In their spare time, they enjoy drawing in the pop surrealism style, watching extreme horror films, and collecting vintage fashion. They reside in the San Francisco Bay Area with their big beautiful tuxedo cat, Ligeia.
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/f9ee7c234f

ONLINE: Creating Paw-sitive Experiences: Puppy Play 101 with Miss Mackenzee
2026-01-26 18:00 - 20:00
Step into an area of BDSM where the boundaries of identity and instinct blur. I welcome you to experience life from a different perspective not simply through human eyes, but through the playful, carefree lens of a dog’s spirit. Allow this to be your gateway to exploring a unique and liberating form of role-play that transcends the conventional.
Imagine stepping into a class that vibrates with energy and curiosity, where the atmosphere is as inviting as a romp in the park. Whether you are a new pup eager to explore playful antics, or a curious handler seeking to understand and nurture this dynamic, this class is expertly designed to cater to all levels of interest and skills.
Begin your journey by discovering the breed of dog that resonates with your inner pet persona. Does the keen loyalty of a Golden Retriever call to you, or is it the independent, adventurous spirit of a Husky that excites your sense of self? Each breed brings its own set of characteristics and quirks, and learning to incorporate these into your play can provide a deeper connection to your inner animal.
From sleek leather collars to ears that perk with delight, the right accessories can enhance your time and help affirm your identity within this arena. Puppy play is not just about solitary exploration; it thrives on connection and relationships. What does puppy play offer the handler? This question is thoroughly explored, revealing how handlers benefit from this unique relationship through empowerment, control, and a nurturing aspect that adds depth to their interactions.
Further conversations to be had will include:

Discover ways to deepen the bond between partners with this type of play
Ensuring consent throughout your experience when one partner is nonverbal
Navigating the complex yet rewarding process of training your dog
How this kind of play can seamlessly be integrated in D/s dynamics
The possible gear that complements and expresses your newfound interest
Exploring the psychological implications of pet play
Live demonstrations to see these practical skills in action

PRESENTER:
Miss Mackenzee comes from a queer, neurodivergent perspective. She is a Board-Certified Sexologist, BDSM and Intimacy Educator, Certified Hypnotist, Certified Trauma-informed Relationship and Sexual Wellness Coach, Kink Lifestyle and Professional Dominant Mentor, Owner of Elysium Dungeon, Host of Kink, Intimacy, and Cannabis Lounge Podcast, Content Creator, and Author. She is also the founder of BDSM and Intimacy University, which makes and sells beautiful one of a kind BDSM toys and furniture as well as offers on demand courses, spicy digital guides, clothing, aftercare items, and more. Miss Mackenzee has written and been quoted in numerous publications, been hired as an expert for various media outlets, and is highly sought after for private lessons with individuals and folks in relationships as well as presenting at conventions and graduate programs at major universities. She has taken over 10,000 hours of continued education at universities and other organizations to become a better educator and coach. She hosts virtual workshops multiple times a week on topics including but not limited to energy play, sex magic, bondage, power exchange, reveling in pleasure, sadism, bedroom skills, and spirituality. One of her driving forces is to be the person she wishes she had when she first started her exploration of kink and sexuality. She loves helping others to have hotter, safer, and more fulfilling intimacy. Miss Mackenzee prides herself on creating a fostering and inclusive environment that is safe from societal judgments for people to explore their desires and individuality.
To view her full offerings, visit her website: www.MissMackenzee.com
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/9cad6f7a8a

ONLINE: High Protocol for D/s with Sinclair Sexsmith
2026-01-27 18:00 - 20:00
Making rules, tasks, and ongoing protocol is one of the cornerstones of D/s dynamics. But it can be daunting to figure out where to start, how to create different structures of protocol for different spaces, and how to maintain the strict container.
We’ll go over some tools that help make protocol easier to experiment with and implement, such as the cartography of control areas, the protocol game, and levels of protocol. Ultimately, protocol is all about creating adjustable, adaptable guidelines that feed the dynamic and enhance D/s headspace. You’ll come away from this discussion with tools and structure to elevate your protocol in any situation.
PRESENTER:
SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer trans butch, a leather dominant, and a writer, focusing on individual, interpersonal, and institutional systems of power. They study dominance and submission, social & restorative justice, the energetic body, trauma, and transformation. They have been in the kink communities since 1999, and orchestrate transformative kink scenes through written erotica and ritual practice. They actively explore the philosophies of power exchange and the practicalities of sustainable, long term D/s. As a leather community member, titleholder, and organizer, Sinclair has presented and performed 200+ times at 75+ venues, including International Ms. Leather, Dark Odyssey, SXSW, Harvard, and Oz Kink Fest. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they have edited 7 queer erotica anthologies; their latest book is Daddy4Daddy: Queer Kink Erotica. Find Sinclair online at http://sugarbutch.net/find-sinclair
TICKETING
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/dbdb8a6970

ONLINE: Grounding and Centering for Kinksters: An Introduction to Defining Space and Self with HG Wyndell
2026-01-28 18:00 - 20:00
There is deep power in being rooted with purpose, with intimate awareness of yourself and the currents of the intended scene. In the bedroom, creating a container separate from the doldrums of daily life can create more meaningful and satisfying play. At a public play event, it is particularly important to be able to define the boundaries of both ourselves and the space for a scene, to keep that which is outside the scene outside, and mind your splash zone.
In this class, we will learn techniques for being present within your own body for better play and creating containers for fulfilling scenes.
PRESENTER:
HG Wyndell is an activist, educator, and Spiritworker who is driven to facilitate accessible ritual spaces for folks seeking access to more deeply nourishing relationships with themselves and others. They are committed to living life through a lens of wonder, and in our experience, they don’t mess around when it comes to embracing the complex beingness of whoever is blessed to be in their presence and consideration. They weave their lived experiences with intentional relationship, genuine gender expression, ceremony, creative arts, chronic illness, and embracing pleasure seamlessly with a whole lot of love and a good bit of magic into the rich curriculum they offer.
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/20cfdc56a8

ONLINE: The Archetypes of Power & Surrender: A Two Part Series with FireOnTheMtnTop / Sir Scott and Lecee
2026-01-29 18:00 - 20:00
This is a two-part class to build on your skills! We’ll meet on both 1/18 and 1/29.
🔥 BDSM isn’t just play—it’s transformation. 🔥
In this evocative and powerful two-part online series, you’ll explore the deep currents of power, submission, polarity, shadow, and ritual through the lens of archetypes. These aren’t roles you act out—they’re energies that move through you. Sacred. Primal. Mythic.
Whether you’re Dominant, submissive, Switch, or still finding your way, this class offers an unforgettable map of the 18 core archetypes that shape how we love, lead, surrender, resist, and transform in kink.
You’ll get:

A custom Archetype Quiz to identify your dominant energetic patterns
A guided tour through each archetype’s essence, shadow, and ritual signature
A set of archetype one-pagers for self-study and scene inspiration
Frameworks for polarity pairing, energy mapping, and transformation scenes
Journaling, reflection, and optional integration rituals between sessions

✨ This is not a 101 class. This is for those ready to meet themselves in the fire. Expect laughter, tears, archetypal awakenings, and mythic-level “aha” moments.
Session One (Jan 18):

Introduction to archetypes in kink and power exchange
How to read and interpret your quiz results
Overview of the 18 archetypes and their core patterns
Exploration of polarity, projection, and sacred role resonance
Journaling + guided prompts

Session Two (Jan 29):

Deep-dive into selected archetypes based on quiz responses
Pairing dynamics: sacred matches, mirrors, challengers
How to build scenes and rituals based on archetypal energies
Integration practices, shadow work, and transformation pathing
Final collective invocation

Presented by Sacred Fire Kink — where submission is a sacrament, and Dominance is a vow.
PRESENTERS:
🔥 Scott – “FireOnTheMtnTop”
Scott is a lifestyle Dominant, Sadist, Daddy, and Primal Edge Player with over 18 years in the kink community. He’s a founding Director of G.O.D.S., creator of Colorado KNKE Kinky Camping, and a seasoned Dungeon Monitor, lifestyle event Emcee, and presenter.
As a Dominant, Scott teaches that leadership in kink is sacred work—rooted in care, emotional safety, and integrity. He’s known for creating grounded, real-world conversations about power and play that help people feel seen, strong, and turned on by their truth.
✨ Lecee
Lecee is the “yin” to Scott’s Dominant fire—his little “s.” She’s been active in the lifestyle for 8 years and brings playful insight, emotional wisdom, and lived experience as a submissive.
Together, she and Scott co-create containers that are intimate, brave, and authentic. Her presence helps others feel permission to explore new desires, embrace vulnerability, and rewrite the old stories they were told about sex, surrender, and and worthiness.
TICKETING:
$40-$80 sliding scale for the two-class series.
Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/232616f81a

ONLINE: Used & Abused: The Art of Erotic Objectification with Jamie Joy
2026-01-31 14:00 - 16:00
Erotic Objectification is a deeply charged facet of kink that centers power, identity, and desire through transformational play. This workshop dives into the deliciously dehumanizing world of becoming a thing — and how that experience can unlock profound connection and catharsis.
Together, we’ll explore the psychological landscape of objectification, how to negotiate boundaries, design roles and scenes that are both hot and affirming, and bring fantasies to life while embracing the healing power of surrender and control.
Get ready to explore a wide range of objectification styles including toys, tools, holes, props, dolls, displays, furniture, urinals, ashtrays, bimbos, property, and more!
Whether you’re longing to be used or yearning to use someone well, this workshop offers interactive exercises and explicit live demos to help you approach objectification with confidence, creativity, and care. Come discover how reducing someone to an object can build the deepest trust — and the dirtiest scenes.
PRESENTER:
Jamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator and hungry slut for freaky fantasies. Their life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community orgynizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate – find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/da16d45717

ONLINE: Curiosity to Connoisseur: A Newbie Intensive with Miss Mackenzee
2026-02-01 11:00 - 16:30
So you’ve watched a movie that had an underlying kinky theme or maybe you have always known there was a darker side to your fantasies. Have you found yourself aroused when reading spicy fantasy books, wishing to be one of the characters? Regardless of what piqued your interest, this intensive is the place for you as it’s designed for anyone who is looking to expand their understanding of BDSM.
Whether you think you’re dominant, submissive, or somewhere in-between, you’ll gain comprehensive knowledge and skills. Let’s begin your exploration by mastering the essential terminology, empowering you to communicate confidently within the lifestyle. Let’s discuss the concept of informed consent to ensure that your experiences are intentional and mutually enjoyable. We will help you to feel confident and safe in your journey, going from newbie to intermediate and beyond. Our time will guide you through this exciting, expansive community in a non-judgmental or pressured way.
Learn fundamental psychology, enhancing your appreciation of the dynamics at play. Gain insights on how to recognize and prepare for common pitfalls you may encounter on your path. Understanding the vital responsibilities that accompany your participation in these types of activities is essential which we will go over. Discover crucial dos and don’ts for kinksters as well as respectful dungeon etiquette to thrive at public events or spaces. This is ALL the information we wish we had when we first started!
Delve deeper with topics including:

Breaking free from the shame of engaging in alternative sexualities
Relationship dynamics, identities, and finding what’s right for you
Journal prompts to explore your desires further
Building your arsenal for your kinky persona
Identifying red flags and problematic, dangerous behaviors early to keep yourself protected
Help with avoiding injuries and when to seek medical assistance
Essential items for your safety kit
The difference between a healthy power exchange relationship and a toxic one
Proper vetting techniques
Building your negotiation skills for satisfying kink adventures
How the experience can change in public versus private
What happens to the brain and its chemicals during play and intimate encounters
Planning and setting up for the experience you desire
Preparing your body and mind for kinky fun
Understanding what drop is and how to combat it
The importance of aftercare

This intensive will include 5 hours of education and a 30 minute break in the middle. Regardless of identity or experience level, all are welcome to join this class as we all have something to learn!
PRESENTER:
Miss Mackenzee comes from a queer, neurodivergent perspective. She is a Board-Certified Sexologist, BDSM and Intimacy Educator, Certified Hypnotist, Certified Trauma-informed Relationship and Sexual Wellness Coach, Kink Lifestyle and Professional Dominant Mentor, Owner of Elysium Dungeon, Host of Kink, Intimacy, and Cannabis Lounge Podcast, Content Creator, and Author. She is also the founder of BDSM and Intimacy University, which makes and sells beautiful one of a kind BDSM toys and furniture as well as offers on demand courses, spicy digital guides, clothing, aftercare items, and more. Miss Mackenzee has written and been quoted in numerous publications, been hired as an expert for various media outlets, and is highly sought after for private lessons with individuals and folks in relationships as well as presenting at conventions and graduate programs at major universities. She has taken over 10,000 hours of continued education at universities and other organizations to become a better educator and coach. She hosts virtual workshops multiple times a week on topics including but not limited to energy play, sex magic, bondage, power exchange, reveling in pleasure, sadism, bedroom skills, and spirituality. One of her driving forces is to be the person she wishes she had when she first started her exploration of kink and sexuality. She loves helping others to have hotter, safer, and more fulfilling intimacy. Miss Mackenzee prides herself on creating a fostering and inclusive environment that is safe from societal judgments for people to explore their desires and individuality.
To view her full offerings, visit her website: www.MissMackenzee.com
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/503ca8fb05

All the Kabbalah You Really Need to Know...in 7.2 hours or less. A six-week interactive course exploring Miriam BatAsherah Green's Kabbalah Series.
2026-02-01 18:00 - 2026-03-14 18:00
Go Beyond the Sephirot

This course includes the major material from all of Miriam BatAsherah Green’s core kabbalah classes, including: the four worlds, the triple soul, the dual nature of the soul (aka the infamous Muppets & Kabbalah class!), working with the alphabet, the tree of life, and specific tools (such as ways to use kabbalah to deepen a tarot practice). The goal of these classes is to go well beyond working with the tree of life as an object and toward understanding kabbalah as a living practice.
Take the time to embrace a deepening practice
Since 2009, I’ve offered this course every few years as one 7.2 hour live class. That format has been enriching, but also exhausting. By giving us more time to fully stretch into the material, with ongoing exercises and homework, I hope this course can help you truly build a kabbalistic magickal framework.
Our six-week course will go live February 1 – March 14, 2026 and will include pre-recorded video lessons, written lessons, and six live sessions of 90 minutes each (pre-recorded if you cannot attend live) each Monday evening at 6pm Pacific.

Your instructor

Miriam BatAsherah Green is probably best known as a sexuality and kink educator, but has been teaching in the magickal arts for much longer than they’ve taught in kink. Mir has decades of experience teaching tarot, kabbalah, and other magickal topics for several organizations and events, including Tejas Web, Scarlet Woman Lodge OTO, Blazing Star Oasis OTO, NOTOCON, Pantheacon, and others. Miriam graduated Magna Cum Laude from Arizona State University in 2000 with a degree in Religious Studies and a concentration in Jewish Studies.
TICKETING:
https://wickedgroundsannex.teachable.com/p/all-the-kabbalah-you-really-need-to-know-in-7-2-hours-or-less

ONLINE: The Edge of Desire: Knife Play with Jamie Joy
2026-02-02 18:00 - 20:00
Come sharpen your skills in this edgy and seductive workshop on Knife Play for the bold and adventurous! From selecting the perfect blade to building a heart-pounding scene, this class promises to send shivers down your spine.
Our skilled instructor will cover the essential principles of safety, consent, and effective communication, so that you can engage in this powerful form of sensation play with confidence and care. We will cover different types of knives, sensual and sadistic techniques, using knives for impact play, how to remove clothes with a knife, temperature play with knives, and knife fucking.
Through explicit live demonstration, you will learn how to create a thrilling yet controlled experience for you and your partners. This class is open to all genders, sexualities, and experience levels. Come and play!
PRESENTER:
Jamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator and hungry slut for freaky fantasies. Their life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community orgynizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate – find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2dd559019b

ONLINE: Tips for House Topping with Miriam Green
2026-02-03 18:00 - 20:00
Are you called to house top and share your skills, but not sure where to start? Perhaps you’re already house topping but want to have better experiences not just for your bottoms but for yourself! Maybe you’ve been puzzled by some key challenges to communicating and gliding into these mini-scenes and want to learn key techniques to make house topping fun again!
We’ll cover:

Speed negotiations for fast & safe play
Key questions to maintain clear communication through the scene
How to calibrate topping to difference levels of experience
Maintaining boundaries & personal standards in the face of others’ expectations
Being an ethical psychopomp for new players

Level: Advanced.
This class is designed for three main audiences: People who are new to house topping and want to make this form of edutainment fun for everyone; people who have experience house topping and want to get even better at going as deeply as this format allows while acting ethically and protecting boundaries for self and others; and party organizers who want to offer safe, fun and ethical house topping & sampler party experiences in our communities. While we’ll be focused on the experience of the more common “house top,” we’ll also cover information that will be of use to house bottoms.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over one dozen years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.com
TICKETING:
Please note: This class is available for free to Wicked Grounds Patreon members who are subscribed at the VIP level ($30/month or higher). If you are a current Patreon member at that level, please reach out to Events@WickedGrounds.com to be put on the guest list. You may select one Kink 101 class per month for this benefit. Want to join? Go to Patreon.com/WickedGrounds to sign up!
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/84f752c7bf

ONLINE: Fatal Follicles: Hair Pulling for Harlots! with Lady V
2026-02-04 18:00 - 20:00
The art of pulling hair starts at the roots. Join Lady V in getting a fist full of skills & techniques around using your bottom’s hair as their own worst enemy.
We’ll condition our skills by:

Using hair pulling for movement, power, sensuality, or pain
Hitting the sweet spots & getting the right amount of hair
Do’s & don’ts of playing with textured hair
Using other body hair for leverage
Negotiation around hair health, pain, & neck injuries

Why take this workshop?
So often people will pull hair from awkward angles that can break hair, cause injury or just be downright painful in a non-fun way. This can be a sexy & sensual guide in making your hair pulling game stand up & stand out!
Please note, this class is accessible to all genders & kink roles.
PRESENTER:
Lady V (she/her) is a spiritually & socioculturally driven sex-positive educator, community organizer & dominatrix.
Using her background in film, Lady V is able to use the power of improv to switch on a dime. Prior, she served as the Program Manager for one of the few agencies in the world specializing in navigating sexuality & gender for people navigating intellectual/developmental disabilities.
Lady V has taught for conferences & sex positive venues across the US & virtually internationally. Lady V also tours nationally with the pet & primal themed wrestling night, Bite Club. She currently serves as an Advocacy Board Member for Sex Positive World & proudly helps facilitate their education as the Remote Education Coordinator. Lady V has also served the community by facilitating public health events.
She is an out, proud, & fierce-as-fire transwoman with a passion for empowering others. While hailing from Detroit, Michigan, she has settled in Salem, Oregon, with her Mistress in a 24/7 TPE where she serves as the majordomo for her leather family, the Atomic Army. Lady V considers herself both a lifestyle & professional switch. Any way the wind blows, it doesn’t really matter to her.
She hopes to inspire others to enjoy sex positivity from an authentic place, as well as embrace their spiritual place within sex positivity & find healing within it.
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/ed19e0eb6e

ONLINE: Trance Work 101 with Keiden Bren
2026-02-04 19:00 - 21:00
Have you ever been curious about trance work or trance states but didn’t know where to start? This class is for you if you have ever been curious about different pathways into altered states of consciousness.
The basics of trance work and inducing a trance state will be covered in class. We will also:
– talk about the basics of trance work
– discuss trance as a spectrum of altered state of consciousness
– talk about the safety considerations in trance work
– go over various methods of trance induction -discuss resources for further exploration.
No matter your level of experience, whether you want to explore trance as a meditative practice, integrate trance work into your spiritual practice, just like learning about new things, or want to learn new trance induction methods, this class has something for everyone.
PRESENTER:
Keiden Bren is a neurodivergent queer kinky pagan artist living with MS. They have a deep passion for identity, communication, and language which fuels their desire to create safe spaces for people to just be themselves and to generate learning experiences to grow. With a professional background and volunteer experience in Security and Event Operations, they have developed a penchant for the technical writing of operations, policies, and procedures with a focus on inclusive training and revising outdated content. They have taught classes and lead workshops in various communities on a wide range of topics with a focus on well-being, connection, sexuality, and spirituality.
In addition to their work in security and education, Keiden is also a drummer, a sacred fire tender, a member of the Universal Temple of Spirits, a first-degree initiate in the Stone Circle Wicca tradition, an ordained Priest by the Order of the Golden Gryphon, a graduate of Gryphon’s Grove School of Shamanism, and an honorary member of the Seattle based Night Crew Paranormal Society.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/15f14fdd81
We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.
So – that’s it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month’s discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds!
If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the “Volunteer List” to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis.
ACCESS:
This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class may be recorded for instructor use but is not guaranteed available for later viewing.
Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

SF: Wicked Grounds Presents: SpankLab! A hands-on monthly impact playshop!
2026-02-04 19:00 - 21:00 | Folsom Street Community Center, 1286 Folsom Street, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
Wicked Grounds Presents: SpankLab!
A peer-led skill share to explore impact play
Hosted by @impossiblepain
SpankLab is something like a rope jam for impact play. We build community connections while learning skills from each other in a lighthearted, low-pressure space. SpankLab welcomes people new to the scene or curious about impact play, as well as experienced players looking to hone or expand their bottoming and topping skills. Bring toys if you have them, and wear whatever you like! @impossiblepain will be available throughout the event to monitor for safe play and as a resource for questions and hands-on instruction.
7 to 7:15: Impact play demo (different demo monthly!)
7:15: DOORS CLOSE
7:15-7:30: Review of rules and guidelines, toys show-and-tell
7:30-9: Socialize, observe, and practice impact play!
SpankLab Rules & Guidelines
Further explanation will be provided at the event, but you can contact @impossiblepain or @WickedGrounds on FetLife, or email eventsassistant@wickedgrounds.com beforehand if you have questions

Ask before touching people
Ask before touching toys
Ask before giving feedback
Use common sense and trust your gut!
Sex-positive space, not sex-active
No phones or photography
Voyeurism is participation — It’s okay to just watch
Dungeon etiquette review

PRESENTER
impossiblepain is an impact switch, a gleeful sadist, and an accomplished masochist. They have been playing publicly with consensual violence since 2014. impossiblepain enjoys kink instruction that makes safe, creative, and whimsical play feel accessible to anyone. They have been hosting SpankLab since 2021.
You are welcome to follow them on FetLife! @impossiblepain
GROUP
Want to learn more about SpankLab? Join our new group on FetLife!
TICKETING
Tickets: $20-$40 in advance or at the door. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/7ae3ed21e2

SF: Kinky Queer Speed Friending/ Dating/ Whatever Jumpstart Your Valentine's Shenanigans with @GreenMir and @impossiblepain
2026-02-05 19:00 - 21:00 | Trellis Coworking and Events, 981 Mission St, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
You know that feeling when you meet a hot queer and you can’t tell if you want to kiss them, go directly to the U-Haul rental, or stay up all night talking about a shared interest? Queer relationships can be deliciously fluid, defying categorization.
Just in time for Valentine’s Day, @GreenMir and @impossiblepain bring you a speed friending/ dating/ whatever for kinky queers who want to meet other kinky queers. We’ll provide a lighthearted, low-stakes atmosphere with conversation starters in case you find yourself tongue-tied by the beautiful queers before you.
You bring an open mind, adventurous spirit (this can be aspirational), and a bottle of water to stay hydrated. At the end of the evening, drop a note and your contact info into the mailboxes of the cuties you want to connect with, and see what unfolds!
Queer, trans, and questioning kinksters of all genders and kinky proclivities are welcome. There will be no kinky play at this event — save that for the weekend!
PRESENTERS:
Miriam Green is a kink educator and coach with over twenty years’ experience in the public BDSM scene as a participant, educator, house top, party host and former gear-slinger. Mir owns Wicked Grounds, a kink and sex-positive education business to help playful people find and traverse their kink journeys. Mir is not, in fact, an extrovert — but will have you fooled by the end of the night!
impossiblepain is an impact switch, a gleeful sadist, and an accomplished masochist. They have been playing publicly with consensual violence since 2014. impossiblepain enjoys kink instruction that makes safe, creative, and whimsical play feel accessible to anyone.
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/9f340c0987

SF: Welcome to the SF Bay Area Scene with Miriam Green
2026-02-07 12:00 - 14:00 | Trellis Coworking and Events, 981 Mission St, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
New to the local public scene? This Kink 101 class gives you the basics on the San Francisco BDSM scene, and is perfect whether you’re new to kink, new to the public scene, or want to learn more about local BDSM play and education. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you’re planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for 20 years in the Austin, Houston, and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They are also the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.Teachable.com
TICKETING:
Tickets: $20 – $50 in advance, or $30 – $60 at the door. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/9fbc24c3b6

SF: "What's Your FetLife?" Managing Social Media Profiles for Kinksters with Miriam Green
2026-02-07 15:00 - 17:00 | Trellis Coworking and Events, 981 Mission St, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
Social media accounts like FetLife, Plura, or even dating profiles are one of the primary ways that kinksters connect with their local communities. But how can we make the best of those platforms while avoiding their challenges and pitfalls?
Whether you’re new to creating kink-centered social media accounts or you want to get more out of the ones you already have, join Miriam Green for a new class on building and using your profiles. We’ll talk about:

The benefits and pitfalls of kink social media
Setting up your account for the long-term
Online security and privacy basics for kinksters
How to make the most of online interactions
Safety & vetting

And of course we’ll get to all of your questions.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over one dozen years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.com
TICKETING:
Tickets: $20 – $50 in advance, or $30 – $60 at the door. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/338e0dad91

ONLINE: Wax Play 101 with Sarah Butcher
2026-02-08 11:00 - 13:00
Whether you’re exploring the world of BDSM or simply want to learn some new ways to spice up your sexy time, this workshop will explore the world of temperature play to give you tips, tricks and inspiration to add new skills to your kink play.
What this workshop will cover:

What is wax play?
Why do it?
Pain vs pleasure
An introduction to different candles
Positions and techniques for sensual exploration
Safewords, communication & aftercare
Demo from Sub in the City’s house Dom and sub

Please note this online event is a seminar-style workshop and no play/nudity is involved. There will be exercises given during class/as homework, but the level of participation is down to what each individual feels safe and comfortable with.
PRESENTER:
Sarah Butcher – AKA Sub in the City is an Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach & Educator with over a decade of experience on the BDSM Scene. Sarah is on a mission to bring BDSM into the 21st Century and empower curious kinksters to consciously explore what BDSM means to them. With a holistic and therapeutic approach, Sarah works with a variety of individuals and couples at different stages of their kink journey, supporting them to discover their desires, integrate their shadows, and live in their truth through 1-1 sessions, workshops, events, and retreats.
TICKETING:
$30 suggested. We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/e0f1f58760

OAK: Lap Dancing Intensive with Alexandria of Click Your Heels
2026-02-08 11:00 - 15:30 | East Bay Community Space, 507 55th Street, Oakland, CA, 94609, United States
All Bodies, All Genders! YOU are welcome as you are. You don’t have to be skinny or feminine or strong or anything else to have fun and feel sexy! No experience needed.
Join us for the half day workshop of Alexandria’s wildly popular Lap Dancing classes. These always sell out so get your spot quick. Like all Click Your Heels events, these classes are primarily about building body confidence, practicing body awareness in real time, and holding a safe community space for all of us to be brave. We value and celebrate genuine erotic spirit, as is the birthright of all human bodies. Embody your sensual power in a whole new way. Buy your ticket now!
Learn simple and easy moves and rules to give a lap dance to any person you choose, with any type of music you like. No dance experience required! We will teach you to make the most of your natural instincts. This is a slow and powerful style of lap dancing that doesn’t require any serious moves and certainly no tricks. This style of lap dancing can be adapted to any type of music you like. We will work a lot on musicality in this class.
We cover how the traditional fundamentals of lap dancing can be easily applied to a huge variety of fun and sexy situations. Lap dancing can be used to showcase the feminine or masculine energy of the dancer. With Alexandria’s slow, steady, encouraging, and down to earth teaching style, you’ll be surprised how much you learn without realizing it. One step at a time you’ll be moving on the floor, in the lap, behind the chair, learning smooth transitions and so much more. No dance experience required! (And, of course, if you do have previous dance knowledge, we’ll show you how to incorporate your existing skills into this new context.)
We will also cover the etiquette of receiving a lap dance: when to hold still, when to move, how to sit/stand/etc, when and how to touch the dancer, and how to contribute to a great experience from both in and out of the chair.
No partner required: Individuals, pairs, and more-somes all welcome.
Remember that lap dancing is vulnerable and takes courage!
Use your common sense and be considerate of your classmates.
COMING TO CLASS? READ THIS–> 🎒 Info for attending:
✨This is a body positive, safe, welcoming environment.
🚪 Doors open at 10:30am. Introductions start at 11am. Doors close approximately 11:30am.
💦 BRING a water bottle (yes there is a refill station). You may also want to bring a light snack; our break will be short.
👕 WEAR LAYERS of clothes you feel good in, that stretch and move with your body but keep your private areas well covered. No jeans! Layers are encouraged! How we dress affects how we feel in our bodies. “Stripping” is NEVER required. AND wearing clothes that YOU feel sexy in (whatever that is for you) will make a big difference.
After we’re warmed up, booty shorts, boykini bottoms, wrestling shorts, bikini tops, bras, crop tops, etc. are all good options for those who feel comfortable. DO wear at least two layers over your crotch at all times, i.e. underwear and a second layer (or not-flimsy swimwear with two layers built-in is also great).
OPTIONAL 🎶🎵
Prepare some music:
Choose 1-2 songs that you are interested in practicing lap dancing to. Please be able to name the song and the artist during class when it’s time. You want songs that
(A) have a very slow tempo AND
(B) help you feel your body, help you tap into your physicality AND
(C) Please check the full lyrics in advance! Avoid anything with common triggers such as racism, sexism, rape, murder, etc.
Not everyone will get their song picked during class but we try to use as many as possible. You may also “pass” or not raise your hand as needed.
PRESENTER:
Alexandria is the founder of Click Your Heels, known for inclusive coaching, workshops, and events centering somatic healing, dance, and physical self expression, all rooted in body-positivity. Her mission is to help everyone Come Home To Your Body. Since the 90’s she’s been teaching, performing, and exploring all sorts of movement, focused on improvisation and authenticity.
Whether it’s one-on-one coaching or teaching hundreds in the audience, Alexandria is always helping us make new connections between our bodies, our brains, and our spirit. Teaching is her gift and her life’s work, movement is her joy and her medium. If you’re ready to build a lasting, loving, and deeply powerful relationship between you and your body, contact Alexandria now. Find out more at https://linktr.ee/clickyourheelsmovement
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2ab5011722

ONLINE: Negotiating and Communicating for Emotional S/M with vahavta
2026-02-08 14:00 - 16:00
Humiliation, degradation, objectification, and other emotion-based play can, for some people, provide some of the most intense or playful kink experiences. But as a more abstract kink, it can be challenging to negotiate effectively. Add the complicated nature of safewording when emotions have already been affected, and you have a recipe for some potentially major pitfalls. In this class, join experienced emotional masochist vahavta to explore your interest in emotional play, discuss some of the possibilities for its directions (both good and bad!), and learn how to communicate with partners to minimize harm and maximize the experience you want.
PRESENTER:
vahavta began her kink journey about a decade ago and has been grateful to get to teach, play, and learn in communities in North Carolina, Chicago, St. Louis, and internationally. Today, she serves her husband in a 24/7 CNC-based Total Power Exchange with heavy elements of emotional play and service. vahavta is disabled, Jewish, and femme, and believes in approaching kink with a firm understanding of intersectional context. As an educator, she aims to give honest and risk-aware information that applies to the realities of human behavior, focusing largely on the “how” and asking people to consider their personal capabilities, interests, and readiness. Passionate about community collaboration, vahavta is proud to run the Risk Evaluation Database (RED) and contribute regularly to kink blogs and her own Fetlife writing index. In all aspects of her life, she strives to be a work in progress.
TICKETING:
The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay. We offer multiple price points, so cost is less of a barrier to attendance.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/5dfee4bec6

ONLINE: Wrapped & Strapped: Body, Chest, and Hip Harnesses with Jamie Joy
2026-02-09 18:00 - 20:00
Get wrapped & strapped in this interactive workshop exploring the world of rope harnesses! From decorative designs to functional bondage, you will learn how to create ties that build connection and excitement.
Through guided demonstration and hands-on practice at home, we will cover body, chest, and strap-on harnesses for all shapes, sizes, and genders. With a focus on safety, communication, and creative exploration, this space is perfect for both beginners and seasoned players looking to harness the seductive power of rope.
Please have your own rope ready for hands-on practice at home. We recommend one or two lengths at least 32′ or longer of cotton, nylon, hemp, or jute rope. No partner required. This class is open to all genders, sexualities, and experience levels. Come and play!
PRESENTER:
Jamie Joy (they/them) is a queer trans Jewish certified sex educator and hungry slut for freaky fantasies. Their life and work is committed to spreading joy, consent, and pleasure through community orgynizing. They have been educating on a wide range of topics related to sex and sexuality for the past 10+ years with experience in K-12 schools, health clinics, college campuses, adult sex shops, national conferences, BDSM dungeons, non-profits, community organizations, and more. Jamie Joy loves to stay up late, throw an unforgettable party, and teach people about the wonders of fisting and fire play. They are always excited to connect and collaborate – find them on Instagram @thebadjewboy or their website www.jamiejoy.com
TICKETING:
$30 suggested; $20 and $40 alternative price points. We offer multiple price points, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/96811b2a3f

ONLINE: KINK 101: BDSM Negotiation Basics with Miriam Green
2026-02-10 18:00 - 20:00
Negotiating is a critical skill for building BDSM scenes, dynamics and relationships that work. But negotiating doesn’t necessarily come naturally — especially for those of us who are just entering the kink scene.
Join us for a Kink 101 session on how to negotiate for exactly what you want in the BDSM scene and relationships. We’ll talk about:

Negotiation styles
Pre-scene negotiations
How to negotiate without killing the mood
Checking in during and after the scene
Negotiating and check-ins for ongoing BDSM dynamics

Drawing on what we know about the psychology of a scene, we’ll learn how to negotiate as partners toward a BDSM style that is hotter, more fun, and more powerful for all partners in a dynamic. This series welcomes all genders, orientations, and dynamic styles. This workshop is designed for newcomers to BDSM but is open to anyone who wants new tools to improve their BDSM communications.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over one dozen years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at WickedGroundsAnnex.Teachable.com
TICKETING:
The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay. We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/83edc7cd4a

ONLINE: Energy Persona Mastery: A 2 Part Series with Sir Scott
2026-02-11 18:00 - 20:00, 2026-02-16 18:00 - 20:00
This is a two-part class! We’ll meet on both 2/11 and 2/16.
Shape your presence. Command the room. Radiate what you choose.
Every time you walk into a dungeon, a bar, or a bedroom, you’re already broadcasting an energy signature. The question is: are you shaping it — or is it shaping you?
Energy Persona Mastery is a 2-part online series that teaches you how to consciously shift your energetic presence for play, ritual, or everyday life. Across two live sessions, you’ll learn practical tools, practice exercises, and leave with a personal Energy Persona Map you can use immediately.
Session 1: Foundations

Discover your default chakra broadcast (what people feel first about you)
Practice shifting dominance between energy centers for different effects
Learn Scene Pre-Loading — how to prime your body language, eye contact, and micro-expressions to charge the air before you touch anyone

Session 2: Expansion

Explore Elemental Alignment (Fire, Water, Earth, Air) to flavor your energy persona
Experiment with Archetypal Masks from the Sacred Fire Kink system to temporarily borrow new energies
Build your personalized Energy Persona Map and integration ritual

PRESENTER:
🔥 Scott – “FireOnTheMtnTop”
Scott is a lifestyle Dominant, Sadist, Daddy, and Primal Edge Player with over 18 years in the kink community. He’s a founding Director of G.O.D.S., creator of Colorado KNKE Kinky Camping, and a seasoned Dungeon Monitor, lifestyle event Emcee, and presenter.
As a Dominant, Scott teaches that leadership in kink is sacred work—rooted in care, emotional safety, and integrity. He’s known for creating grounded, real-world conversations about power and play that help people feel seen, strong, and turned on by their truth.
✨ Lecee
Lecee is the “yin” to Scott’s Dominant fire—his little “s.” She’s been active in the lifestyle for 8 years and brings playful insight, emotional wisdom, and lived experience as a submissive.
Together, she and Scott co-create containers that are intimate, brave, and authentic. Her presence helps others feel permission to explore new desires, embrace vulnerability, and rewrite the old stories they were told about sex, surrender, and and worthiness.
TICKETING:
$50 suggested; $40-$60 sliding scale available. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford. We offer multiple price points, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/a877a6df5e

SF: Kinky Speed Friending with PsychoKitty
2026-02-11 19:00 - 21:00 | Trellis Coworking and Events, 981 Mission St, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
Get tickets exclusively on Plura!
—
Feeling social pressure to find someone to connect with?
We can’t promise love, but we can help you with a fun night full of meeting people, a lot of people, fast.
Our purpose is to encourage you to meet new people.
– Find people with similar kinks as yours.
– Find people with whom to explore new kinks.
– Find new friends.
– Find new people to play with.

People will be separated by appetite, either top or bottom. (Switches can pick a side or wait to see what side is needed more.) And then you will get two minutes with each person and a chance to connect afterward.
The evening is about meeting people who complement your kinky appetite, not about identity or gender. The people you meet will be worth meeting, even if they aren’t your appetite.
Once the event has started, we can not add new people, so please be on time.
PRESENTER:
Ryan “Psychokitty” has been helping people connect with similar events for over a decade, from the old Shibaricon in Chicago to Dark Odyssey: Surrender, or hosting events at the SF Citadel, Catalyst, and of course Wicked Grounds.

ONLINE: Let's Play with Age Play! with Lee Harrington
2026-02-12 18:00 - 20:00
Age Play among consenting adults can be a vibrant, imaginative landscape far beyond the stereotypes often projected from outside (or even inside) the kink community. In this class we’ll explore the personal, cultural, and archetypal roles used between consenting adults to take on creative roles other than their natal age.
Adults might role play being mischievous teens, kind babysitters, bratty scouts, and sweet adult babies, and in doing so discover how these energies can inform both play and identity. Together we’ll look at pre-verbal, toddler, school-age, teen, and adult roles, as well as familial archetypes and other “adults,” honoring the many ways we express power, care, rebellion, and delight. We’ll also touch on incorporating age play into other kinks while navigating the emotional land mines that past experiences may have left behind. Bring your curiosity, your imagination, and your willingness to explore.
PRESENTER:
Lee Harrington is an internationally known spiritual and erotic authenticity educator, gender explorer, eclectic artist and award-winning author and editor on erotic and sacred experience. He’s been traveling the globe teaching and talking about sexuality, psychology, faith and desire, and believes you deserve passion and connection in your life. His books include “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Negotiating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities” (with Mollena Williams), “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities,” amongst many others. Lee has been a passion instigator, academic, adult film performer, world class sexual adventurer, outspoken philosopher, polytheist priest/ess, kink/bondage expert, and has been blogging about sex and spirit since 1998. Read more about Lee at PassionAndSoul.com.
TICKETING:
$30 suggested. We offer several price points, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/a7501e1fbb

ONLINE: Dirty Talking Instead of Dirty Dancing: A Playtalk Workshop with Mel and Memi
2026-02-14 11:00 - 13:00
Does hearing someone else say ‘on your knees’ turn you on? Do you want to order people around and say hot and sexy things but don’t know how?
Then we are coming to help! Come hear two dirty talkers explain how to think things through beforehand to find the right words in the moment. We are going to be exploring everything from negotiation and care to orders and commands.
What this workshop will offer:

What is ‘Play Talk’?
What we can do with words and not actions
Dan Savage structure on dirty talk
Play talk vs. humiliation
How roleplay can be made out of words
Play talk for bottoms and tops
How to give orders without dying
Negotiation demo and tips

PRESENTERS:
Mel (he/him) is an Argentinian trans masc aligned gender fluid sex and BDSM educator. He is the co-founder of Kinky Vibe Argentina, a collective based in Buenos Aires that hosts events, support groups and workshops for the kinky, queer and neurodivergent community both online and offline. Lifestyle kinkster, he has been doing kink for the last ten years, identifies as sub-leaning switch, and is a sex worker (ProDomme).
One of his greatest passions is thinking about power, risk, and self-consent in the context of kink, and spending most of his time accompanying people on their kinky journey. He has been teaching about kink, pleasure, risk, and depathologization for the last nine years.
Memi (he/him) is an Argentinian trans masc person, who is a lifestyle kinkster, a history teacher, and an early-career researcher in the history of sexualities. He has been doing kink for almost a decade in a wide variety of kinks, relationships, dynamics, and sides of the slash. He is very curious about power, oppression, and the complex history behind kink, the space where didactics and kink meet, and loves to be a kink enabler to everyone around.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/8e2b91bae4

ONLINE: ESM 102: Resilience Skills for Emotional S/m with vahavta
2026-02-15 14:00 - 16:00
Emotional S/m can offer some of the most intense and transformative experiences in kink, and also some of the most challenging to navigate sustainably. In ESM 102: Resilience Skills for Emotional Sadomasochism, vahavta will take us beyond basic negotiation and communication to focus on what it actually takes to keep this kind of play sustainable for your brain, body, and life.
We’ll discuss how we can better prepare for and navigate the complex nuances between consensual emotional suffering and genuine psychological damage, and walk away with practical methods for building tailored personal resilience while outside of play so that you can lean in more consciously and fully when it begins—not the sort of resilience that protects you from intensity, but one that allows you to metabolize it fully and keep coming back for more.
For ESM players who are familiar with their desires and ready to develop the skills needed for long-term sustainability in psychological edgeplay.
PRESENTER:
vahavta began her kink journey about a decade ago and has been grateful to get to teach, play, and learn in communities in North Carolina, Chicago, St. Louis, and internationally. Today, she serves her husband in a 24/7 CNC-based Total Power Exchange with heavy elements of emotional play and service. vahavta is disabled, Jewish, and femme, and believes in approaching kink with a firm understanding of intersectional context. As an educator, she aims to give honest and risk-aware information that applies to the realities of human behavior, focusing largely on the “how” and asking people to consider their personal capabilities, interests, and readiness. Passionate about community collaboration, vahavta is proud to run the Risk Evaluation Database (RED) and contribute regularly to kink blogs and her own Fetlife writing index. In all aspects of her life, she strives to be a work in progress.
TICKETING:
The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay. We offer multiple price points, so cost is less of a barrier to attendance.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/b75238e241

ONLINE: Boundary Expression and Enforcement with Laura Boyle of Ready for Polyamory
2026-02-17 18:00 - 20:00
As a certified People Pleaser and Anxious Conflict Avoider, for many years I struggled immensely with communicating needs and boundaries with partners, friends, and metamours. Communication of needs and boundaries is the foundation of self-care in all relationships, but especially polyamorous relationships, where additional moving parts may necessitate additional communication around situational and emotional changes.
This class is a roundup of strategies that I’ve been offered over the years by therapists, partners, and my own imagination, including the ones that don’t work for me but do for others I know, to help attendees build their toolbox for this type of interaction.
PRESENTER:
Laura Boyle is a relationship coach, educator, and author of Monogamy? In this Economy? Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. She’s the voice behind the Ready for Polyamory blog and podcast, and has been an expert voice on polyamory in such publications as The Boston Globe and Cosmopolitan. She’s been polyamorous for nearly 20 years and has been teaching since 2018.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. We offer a sliding scale so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/ceb7ed2e2c

ONLINE: Dating as Shadow Work: Turning Emotional Triggers into Pathways of Growth with Marie Thouin PhD
2026-02-19 18:00 - 20:00
Dating has a way of bringing our shadow to the surface — fast. Few other arenas of modern life expose our tender spots quite like romance does. One moment, we feel exhilarated; the next, we’re swimming in shame, rejection, insecurity, or hopelessness. In this class, we’ll explore dating as a spiritual and psychological practice — a living laboratory for shadow integration.
Through guided reflection, dialogue, and practical tools, we’ll look at the emotions we most want to avoid — abandonment, disappointment, shame, embarrassment, insecurity, grandiosity — and learn how to work with them skillfully. Rather than chasing validation or avoiding pain, we’ll reframe dating as a path of self-inquiry and expansion. Every experience, even the “bad dates,” becomes material for growth, self-reclamation, and emotional liberation.
By shifting from a win/lose mindset to one of curiosity and evolution, participants will learn how to date from wholeness — not from the shadow’s need to be seen, saved, or soothed.
You’ll learn how to:

Recognize and name the shadow emotions that surface in dating
Identify projection, fantasy, and defense patterns in romantic dynamics
Transform emotional triggers into insights for integration and healing
Reclaim your psycho-emotional space from rejection loops and idealization
Approach dating as a sacred practice of awareness, embodiment, and authenticity

Format:
Interactive talk + guided reflection exercises + group dialogue
Who it’s for:
This class is for anyone who senses that dating can be more than just a search for “the one” — and that it can be a profound mirror and teacher.
It’s especially for:

Intellectually and spiritually curious humans who love psychological depth and meaning-making
Relationship geeks and emotional explorers who want to understand their own patterns more deeply
Queer, non-monogamous, kinky, or otherwise non-traditional daters seeking a growth-oriented framework that honors their complexity
Free spirits who want to love and connect authentically, without giving away their power
Anyone tired of repetitive loops who’s ready to use dating as a site of awakening rather than reenactment

No matter your gender, orientation, or relational style, this space invites honesty, courage, and curiosity about what dating stirs within you — and how every emotional trigger can become a doorway to greater freedom.
PRESENTER:
Marie Thouin, PhD is the author of “What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships,” the first-ever comprehensive scholarly book on compersion. She has been featured in several publications and podcasts, including ELLE, the Savage Lovecast, The Times of London, and HuffPost. Marie has also published seminal research studies, the first encyclopedia entry on compersion, and is the creator of www.WhatIsCompersion.com, a popular website that features her research, blogs, and resources on the topic of compersion. She is the Founder of Love InSight, a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coaching practice where she supports and guides people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives.
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/d2423e4586

ONLINE: Consensual Non-Consent: When No Means Yes with Sarah Butcher
2026-02-22 11:00 - 13:00
Have you ever fantasized about being taken by a stranger against your will? Well, you’re not alone. Consensual non-consent is a common kink that is often not talked about because of its taboo, but in this workshop, we are going to talk openly about how to explore this style of role play.
In this workshop, we will be exploring:

What CNC is and isn’t
Why do people like it?
The role of “top” and “bottom”
Different types of CNC fantasies
Consent, consent, consent
Trauma and CNC
Top tips for exploring a CNC fantasy

TW: This workshop may be triggering for anyone who has experienced a non-consensual event. We will be talking openly about rape-fantasy and other types of non-consensual activities. Please be aware of this and make an informed judgment before choosing to attend.
This is an online workshop and will be in seminar style. Please bring a notebook and pen if you’d like to take notes and reflect.
PRESENTER:
Sarah Butcher – AKA Sub in the City is an Integrative Kink Therapist, Coach & Educator with over a decade of experience on the BDSM Scene. Sarah is on a mission to bring BDSM into the 21st Century and empower curious kinksters to consciously explore what BDSM means to them. With a holistic and therapeutic approach, Sarah works with a variety of individuals and couples at different stages of their kink journey, supporting them to discover their desires, integrate their shadows, and live in their truth through 1-1 sessions, workshops, events and retreats.
TICKETING:
$30 suggested; $20-$40 sliding scale. We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/d413c1a961
