Wicked Grounds

ONLINE: Gasp & Glow: Breathwork as Sensation Play with M'kali-Hashiki
2025-10-01 18:00 - 20:00 (America/Los_Angeles) | CA
Breath is the quiet implement that changes everything. Intentional breathing becomes a sensation dial—turning intensity up, easing panic, and deepening connection. Bottoms learn to ride impact longer with less overwhelm; Tops learn to read breath, pace scenes, and co-regulate without buying a single new toy.
Expect nerdy-meets-sacred vibes, plenty of guided practice, and an easy aftercare exhale you can use anywhere.
For all genders, bodies, roles, and experience levels—perfect for kinksters who crave fresh tools without extra gear.
Learning Objectives

Use three bottom-friendly breath patterns to expand capacity and stay present.
Read breath cues as a Top to adjust rhythm, force, and pacing.
Negotiate breath-based safety signals when words are wobbly.
Down-regulate both partners with an after-scene exhale sequence.

PRESENTER:
About M’kali-Hashiki (she/her/hers): I was given the name Mkali Hashiki by a Priest of Oshun in the Ifa tradition (I added the hyphen & apostrophe to help with pronounciation). It means “fierce passion” in Swahili. I believe that we are all entitled to have passion in our lives, and to understand how being connected to our passion & creativity enhances our lives & the lives of those around us. It is my fierce passion for a happy, healthy, world that motivates everything I do.
I’m a Certified Sexological Bodyworker; a Certified Sound, Voice, & Music Healer; and a Certified Tantric Sacred Intimate. I’m also a former Gynecological Teaching Associate (teaching medical students how to perform painless, patient-centered pelvic & breast exams using my body as the demo model), a published essayist; a former professional social justice organizer; and an Ifa devoteé. I’m a fat, Black, queer, womanist, polyamorous, kinky, first generation Northern-born, middle-aged dyke Burn Survivor with moderate to severe PTSD. My cultural upbringing & lived experiences of struggling to love myself in a world that hates all of my identities (some more than others) informs every aspect of my work.
I have a complex sexuality & sexual history. I have personal experience with polyamory, nonmonogamy, BDSM, and achieving mystical states during sex. I am—and have always been—a “sexual outlaw”, as well as being a “triple minority” (Black, female, and queer); this has allowed me to view society’s standards on sexuality with a critical eye. As a Scorpio, I have always been curious and intrigued by sexuality, and feel that my erotic sense is the most calibrated of all my senses, and is the filter through which I experience the world.
I am currently addressing 30 plus years of undiagnosed & untreated PTSD. I understand the ways in which our triggers hide from us, popping up when we least expect it; the ways trauma can influence even the most mundane actions in our day-to-day lives; the ways minor triggers substitute for the major ones. Even though my traumatic incident was not sexual trauma, it still had an impact on my erotic growth & sexual development.
I have been deeply influenced personally, professionally, and politically by Audre Lorde’s essay “The Uses Of The Erotic: The Erotic As Power” (if you haven’t read it, you need to!). I believe her point that in order to maintain itself, oppression requires the repression of the erotic. Because of my politics, spirituality, and lived experiences; because of the lies we are constantly told about what sex should be, about what is normal and acceptable; and because of the sexual truths that are vilified; I view my work in FiercePassions as a form of political rebellion.
FiercePassions.com
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/31b56b623a

SF: Wicked Grounds Presents: SpankLab! A hands-on monthly impact playshop!
2025-10-01 19:00 - 21:00 | Folsom Street Community Center, 1286 Folsom Street, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
Wicked Grounds Presents: SpankLab!
A peer-led skill share to explore impact play
Hosted by @impossiblepain
SpankLab is something like a rope jam for impact play. We build community connections while learning skills from each other in a lighthearted, low-pressure space. SpankLab welcomes people new to the scene or curious about impact play, as well as experienced players looking to hone or expand their bottoming and topping skills. Bring toys if you have them, and wear whatever you like! @impossiblepain will be available throughout the event to monitor for safe play and as a resource for questions and hands-on instruction.
7 to 7:15: Impact play demo (different demo monthly!)
7:15: DOORS CLOSE
7:15-7:30: Review of rules and guidelines, toys show-and-tell
7:30-9: Socialize, observe, and practice impact play!
SpankLab Rules & Guidelines
Further explanation will be provided at the event, but you can contact @impossiblepain or @WickedGrounds on FetLife, or email eventsassistant@wickedgrounds.com beforehand if you have questions

Ask before touching people
Ask before touching toys
Ask before giving feedback
Use common sense and trust your gut!
Sex-positive space, not sex-active
No phones or photography
Voyeurism is participation — It’s okay to just watch
Dungeon etiquette review

PRESENTER
impossiblepain is an impact switch, a gleeful sadist, and an accomplished masochist. They have been playing publicly with consensual violence since 2014. impossiblepain enjoys kink instruction that makes safe, creative, and whimsical play feel accessible to anyone. They have been hosting SpankLab since 2021.
You are welcome to follow them on FetLife! @impossiblepain
GROUP
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TICKETING
Tickets: $20-$40 in advance or at the door. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/e9d77b6b2c

SF: Welcome to the SF Bay Area Scene with Miriam Green
2025-10-04 12:00 - 14:00 | Folsom Street Community Center, 1286 Folsom Street, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
This class is perfect whether you’re new to kink, new to the public scene, or want to learn more about local BDSM play and education. Join us for this quick orientation to the local kink scene. This session is perfect for folks who are making their first brave steps into the San Francisco kink scene. This class is also a perfect intro to etiquette and protocols if you’re planning to get involved with local play parties and organizations.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for 20 years in the Austin, Houston, and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They are also the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.Teachable.com
TICKETING:
Tickets: $20 – $50 in advance, or $30 – $60 at the door. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/11af95da74

SF: Dating While Kinky with Miriam Green
2025-10-04 15:00 - 17:00 | Trellis Coworking and Events, 981 Mission St, San Francisco, CA, 94103, United States
Whether you prefer online dating, speed dating, blind dates, or the million other ways we meet people, it’s hard enough to be yourself and just get to know the someone — or several someones — best for you.
Add a desire for fetish/ kink/ leather/ BDSM to the mix, and things get even trickier. When do you talk about kink? How do you talk about it? How do you get what you want safely?
In this Kink 101 session, we’ll talk about a variety of strategies for navigating the dating world as a kinkster, including:

Dating resources in the kink community
Online dating sites/ apps that work for kinksters, and a lot that don’t . . .
How to navigate those first few crucial dates
Red flags and green lights to watch for
Basic negotiations
Choosing Mx. Right Now, and Mx. Right

PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for twenty years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.Teachable.com
TICKETING:
$35 suggested. Sliding scale available for those for whom cost is a barrier to participation.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/4746e33198

ONLINE: KINK 201: Advanced BDSM Negotiations - Relationships & Dynamics with Miriam Green
2025-10-07 18:00 - 20:00 | CA
Join us for a Kink 201 session exploring negotiating how to think about and create long-term D/s dynamics and kinky relationships that work! We’ll talk about:

Setting your own must-haves and red flags
Negotiating for play partner relationships
D/s relationships & contracts
How to maintain relationships over time
And more!

Building on our negotiation basics, we’ll learn how to negotiate as partners toward a BDSM style that is hotter, more fun, and more powerful for all partners in a dynamic.
This workshop is designed for kinksters with some experience and knowledge of how to negotiate for BDSM play and scenes but is open to anyone who wants new tools to improve their BDSM communications in ongoing relationships. This series welcomes all genders, orientations, and dynamic styles.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green (they/ them) is the owner of Wicked Grounds and has been teaching in BDSM for over one dozen years for Wicked Grounds, Society of Janus, Foundations, Dark Odyssey, and other local and national BDSM organizations. Mir has been in the public BDSM scene for nearly 20 years in Austin, Houston, and the San Francisco Bay Area.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/db21735532

ONLINE: Forbidden Fruit: Stepping into Kink Positivity with Dolly Diatima
2025-10-09 08:00 - 17:00 | CA
Once condemned as madness, now simply tolerated as a “preference,” kink has long existed at the edges of medicine and morality. But what if your desires aren’t problems to be solved? What if they aren’t just something to be tolerated? What if instead they are something far more radical, a different way of touching the world…and being touched by the world.
This class invites you to step into the dungeon, not as punishment but as a possibility, a site of transformation. Here we will trace kink’s origins as 19th century medical madness and discuss how the urge to diagnose desire gave way to the concept of perversion. We’ll watch how this old way of thinking still haunts our society today and elaborate on how kink has survived, adapted, and seduced its way into the present. Then we’ll turn the whip around, because sometimes theory likes to bottom.
Using easy to understand philosophical frameworks like virtue and care ethics, we’ll explore how the erotic dance of dominance and submission can rewrite morality itself. Because the moment you embrace pain as pleasure, control as connection, and power as a way to play, your desire becomes the blueprint for a better world.
So come ready to think, to ache, to unlearn, we’re about to make philosophy beg for more. Think of it as intellectual aftercare, for you and for the world.
INSTRUCTOR:
Dolly Diatima is a Persian American professional dominatrix, writer, fetish model, and lifestyle kinkster. As a nonbinary and neurodivergent sex worker on the ace spectrum, they offer a unique perspective into kink and sexuality which they work to bring into their sessions as a domme as well as into their writings and classes. They recently earned a BA in Philosophy and can often be found discussing the intersection of kink and philosophical concepts on their blog. In their spare time they enjoy drawing in the pop surrealism style, watching extreme horror films, and collecting vintage fashion. They reside in the San Francisco Bay Area with their big beautiful tuxedo cat, Ligeia.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/a4966bef35
We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.
So – that’s it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month’s discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds!
If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the “Volunteer List” to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis.
ACCESS:
This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and distributed for later viewing.
Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

ONLINE: Dealing with Drop with Miriam Green
2025-10-09 18:00 - 20:00 | CA
Sub drop. Top drop. “A case of the Mondays.”
Whatever we call it, post-scene drop is frustrating, irritating, and isolating. It often makes us question — at least in the moment — what was otherwise an awesome scene.
What is this awful mood we fall into after a scene, and what the heck can we do about it?
In this class, Miriam Green will draw on what we know about the neuropsychology of BDSM to help us better understand drop, and build strategies for resilience when we face it. We’ll talk about:

Common misconceptions about drop
What’s going on in the mind, brain and body
Mind-body strategies for before, during and after the scene to help us bounce back
How to change our narrative to avoid making drop worse
The best ways to effectively communicate after a scene — for good scenes and bad

You’ll come away with better self-understanding and a self-care toolkit to draw on when drop comes calling. Join us!
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over twenty years in the Austin, Houston, and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2937ff63af

ONLINE: Hypnokink on the Ace Spectrum with Faun
2025-10-13 18:00 - 20:00 | CA
Even in this day and age, it can still be incredibly difficult for kinksters on the ace spectrum to feel like they belong in kinky spaces. Knowing that kink isn’t inherently sexual is one thing, and figuring out how to get our needs met without making ourselves uncomfortable is another. If this sounds like you, allow me to introduce you to the beauty that is hypnokink!
In this class, we’ll discuss the ways in which kink itself can be validating and cozy for acespec people, and explore specifics about how we can interact with hypnokink from any position or role without compromising boundaries or comfort levels. The class is open to all, so if you or a loved one is on the ace spectrum, or you’re just curious, please come join us!
PRESENTER:
Faun (he/him) is a smut writer and kink educator from the Pacific Northwest. Despite knowing he was firmly on the ace spectrum in his teenage years, he always felt that something was missing. One day, he stumbled upon a website chock full of hypnokinky stories, and the rest is history. Now, he hopes to help others find their own niche in the kink community by sharing what he’s learned through study and experience. You can find him on AO3 and tumblr as spiraledfaun, and on Fet as deerfaun.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/9bf51a9b8f

ONLINE: KINK 101: BDSM Negotiation Basics with Miriam Green
2025-10-21 18:00 - 20:00 | CA
Negotiating is a critical skill for building BDSM scenes, dynamics and relationships that work. But negotiating doesn’t necessarily come naturally — especially for those of us who are just entering the kink scene.
Join us for a Kink 101 session on how to negotiate for exactly what you want in the BDSM scene and relationships. We’ll talk about:
– Negotiation styles
– Pre-scene negotiations
– How to negotiate without killing the mood
– Checking in during and after the scene
– Negotiating and check-ins for ongoing BDSM dynamics
Drawing on what we know about the psychology of a scene, we’ll learn how to negotiate as partners toward a BDSM style that is hotter, more fun, and more powerful for all partners in a dynamic.This series welcomes all genders, orientations, and dynamic styles. This workshop is designed for newcomers to BDSM but is open to anyone who wants new tools to improve their BDSM communications.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over one dozen years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.Teachable.com
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/32cc11a798
The regular ticket is $30. This is what most people should pay. We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
Please note: This class is available for free to Wicked Grounds Patreon members who are subscribed at the VIP level ($30/month or higher). If you are a current Patreon member at that level, please reach out to Events@WickedGrounds.com to be put on the guest list. You may select one Kink 101 class per month for this benefit. Want to join? Go to Patreon.com/WickedGrounds to sign up!
If cost is a barrier at any point on the sliding scale, please use the Volunteer List at the bottom of the listing to request a scholarship seat.
ACCESS:
Attend online anywhere via Zoom! To participate, you will need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class. This class will be recorded and is available for later viewing. Zoom now provides closed captioning which will be available for this event.
This class will be recorded and provided to ticketed attendees the day after the class.

ONLINE: Shadow, Power & the Erotic Self: A Ritual Descent with Sir Scott
2025-10-22 00:00, 2025-10-22 08:00 - 17:00 | CA
This is not a ‘nice’ workshop. This is sacred edge-play with the parts of ourselves we exile. In this 2-session online ritual descent, we enter the underworld of the erotic psyche to explore the power and beauty of the shadow self through kink, archetypes, and conscious embodiment.
Through poetic reflection, shadow persona work, kink-informed ritual tools, and energetic excavation, you’ll meet the parts of yourself that dominate, collapse, mask, and burn. You’ll also discover what these shadows truly long for—and how they can become allies in your erotic power.
This is an immersive and emotionally rich journey. Come with courage, curiosity, and a willingness to feel.
Format & Timing:
• 2 Online Sessions – 2 hours each (Zoom or preferred platform)
• Optional homework between sessions (Shadow Persona Quiz, journaling, sigil work)
• Includes downloadable handouts, ritual worksheets, and reflection pages
Who This Is For:
• Kink-curious or seasoned practitioners exploring shadow integration
• Erotic explorers seeking spiritual depth and psychological insight
• Educators, therapists, facilitators, or ritualists looking to deepen their shadow-informed practices
All genders, orientations, and identities welcome. This is a queer- and neurodivergent-welcoming space. Nudity, live scenes, or sexual activity are not part of this class. Adult themes and intense material will be engaged with care.
**FAQ Highlights**
**Q: Will this involve live scenes or nudity?**
A: No. This is a teaching, reflection, and ritual exploration class, not a play party.
**Q: What if I’m new to kink or shadow work?**
A: Perfect. Come as you are. Everything is framed accessibly, with optional entry points.
**Q: Do I have to share anything personal?**
A: Sharing is welcome but never required. We’ll offer solo, private options for every practice.
PRESENTER:
🔥 Scott – “FireOnTheMtnTop”
Scott Croushore is a kink educator, ritual facilitator, and licensed therapist with over two decades of experience guiding people into sacred erotic transformation. He is the creator of the Sacred Fire Kink Archetype system and co-creator of Silver Edge Kink. His work blends deep psychology, mythic kink, and ritual embodiment.
TICKETING:
$40 – $80 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/8e8038ea1c
We offer multiple price points, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.
So – that’s it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $20. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month’s discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds!
If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the “Volunteer List” to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis.
ACCESS:
This will be a live, recorded online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and distributed to those who registered.
Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.

ONLINE: Spicy Tarot with HG Wyndell
2025-10-22 18:00 - 20:00 | CA
Come and join a discussion on how we can mix the art of tarot with our kinky adventures. We’ll talk about using cards to create scene ideas, playing with archetypes, getting out of our heads, and opening up questions we might not have thought to ask. A working understanding of tarot will be helpful to get the most out of this workshop.
PRESENTER:
HG Wyndell is an activist, educator, and Spiritworker who is driven to facilitate accessible ritual spaces for folks seeking access to more deeply nourishing relationships with themselves and others. They are committed to living life through a lens of wonder, and in our experience, they don’t mess around when it comes to embracing the complex beingness of whoever is blessed to be in their presence and consideration. They weave their lived experiences with intentional relationship, genuine gender expression, ceremony, creative arts, chronic illness, and embracing pleasure seamlessly with a whole lot of love and a good bit of magic into the rich curriculum they offer.
TICKETING:
$30 suggested; $20-$40. We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance. Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/05e5e41a4e
If cost is a barrier at any point on the sliding scale, please use the Volunteer List at the bottom of the listing to request a scholarship seat.
ACCESS:
This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you will need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class may be recorded but is not guaranteed available for later viewing.
This class will be recorded.
Zoom now provides closed captioning which will be available for this event.

ONLINE: KINK 101: BDSM Negotiation Basics with Miriam Green
2025-10-28 08:00 - 17:00 | CA
Negotiating is a critical skill for building BDSM scenes, dynamics and relationships that work. But negotiating doesn’t necessarily come naturally — especially for those of us who are just entering the kink scene.
Join us for a Kink 101 session on how to negotiate for exactly what you want in the BDSM scene and relationships. We’ll talk about:

Negotiation styles
Pre-scene negotiations
How to negotiate without killing the mood
Checking in during and after the scene
Negotiating and check-ins for ongoing BDSM dynamics

Drawing on what we know about the psychology of a scene, we’ll learn how to negotiate as partners toward a BDSM style that is hotter, more fun, and more powerful for all partners in a dynamic.This series welcomes all genders, orientations, and dynamic styles. This workshop is designed for newcomers to BDSM but is open to anyone who wants new tools to improve their BDSM communications.
PRESENTER:
Miriam Green has been in the public kink scene for over one dozen years in the Austin, Houston and San Francisco scenes. They teach a series of KINK 101 classes on the SF kink community, BDSM negotiations, and dating while kinky. They also are the owner of Wicked Grounds.
You may also book personal consulting and coaching sessions with them at https://WickedGroundsAnnex.Teachable.com
TICKETING:
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/df100a4d48

ONLINE: Tied and True: Introduction to Rope Bondage with SuspendDisbelief
2025-10-30 18:00 - 20:00 | CA
This 101-level course is aimed toward anybody who has barely touched rope but wants to, who would like a refresher, or who, much like the presenter, was repeatedly betrayed by their neurodivergence while trying to learn rope and would benefit from novel ways to look at the basics. It provides opportunities to learn basic risk awareness, pros and cons of rope materials, and building blocks such as single column knots and connecting rope.
This class in particular aims to provide a “grab-bag” of several ways to achieve each step, allowing students to pick what works for them from both topping and bottoming perspectives.
If you have at least one 24-30ft length of rope and a cutting tool, please have them handy. You can bring but do not need a partner for this class. We will work under the philosophy that there is no “one true way” you must perfectly carry out, but a few tips can help keep beginners safer.
PRESENTER:
SuspendDisbelief (she/her) is a queer, non-monogamous power exchange and sadomasochism nerd. Her hobby of choice has been getting hurt in public since 2017, but she has been fantasizing about powerlessness and crushing on former boy scouts exclusively for their knowledge of knots for far longer than that. On top of bottoming for power exchange and physical+emotional sadism, she started tying herself in 2019 and swiftly snowballed down the pipeline toward rope topping. She uses the chaos goblin energy bestowed upon her by her ADHD to enhance her teaching and help people like her “get it”. She currently helps facilitate and teaches monthly for Hitchin’ Bitches DC.
TICKETING:
$20 – $40 in advance. Please pay at the level you can comfortably afford.
https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/90a4e4eafd
We offer a sliding scale, so that cost is not a barrier to attendance.
So – that’s it! Choose the level you can comfortably afford.
Patreon members at the VIP+ level may get discounted tickets for $10. Just see your Patreon membership emails for this month’s discount code. Find out more at Patreon.com/WickedGrounds!
If cost is a barrier at any level, please use the “Volunteer List” to request a free scholarship ticket. We will award as many scholarship tickets as we can on a space-available basis.
ACCESS:
This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class *will not* be recorded.
Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.
